It’s never been about love, but the rollercoaster, feeling alive and desired, dude. At least on her part.
Take it or leave it.
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And guess what bro there are plenty of fine ass women that aren’t interested in head games that will treat you right and are probably amazing in bed
I am single personally because i want to be but let me tell you … i have let so many fine ass women go because they wanted to play mind games… ain’t got time for that … i am trying to work on myself and make my life better, so if they are on board with that awesome then we can give this a real shot and build and grow together… if not then pack their bags and be gone … aint got time for stupid head games
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What you need to do first, if you want to learn from all of that, instead of just running from it, is to empty your head of her and gradually replace your passion for her with cool detachment while keeping the ball rolling. Of course, you can’t extinguish the fire in you completely, that would be the end.
WANTED would help you a lot.
Cheers, bruh.
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I wouldn’t overthink it man.
You love her. She loves you. And you’re both immature and learning and figuring things out just like everyone else. We’re all immature and developing out here.
In a very real way, it’s not about love. It’s about competence. (In this case, social and emotional competence.) If someone shows their love for me by attacking me and shooting at me, then, as nice as it is to be loved, I am not going to stay around that person. In my terms, that person is not competent to be around me. Like an 8-year-old trying to drive an 18-wheeler. Not evil, just not qualified.
We don’t have to make someone ‘the bad guy’ to justify setting our healthy and preferred boundaries.
The fact that you deserve and insist on being treated properly is more than enough justification. No need to paint her as some kind of genocidal maniac. She just hasn’t learned how to act right yet. We’re all learning, right?
Anyway. More words and ideas. You’ve got more than enough of those.
Hope you can also have some time to process all of this and get what you need to keep moving forward. Maybe unplug from this place for a little while. Unless we’re helping…
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If you really hated life you wouldn’t be enjoying the sex as much as you are, or feel as deeply impacted by her actions as you did.
I don’t know what you’re thinking, but it sounds to me like what you hate is all the childish game playing, the using the relationship as a leverage or weapon (if you don’t act like this, I’m out!), and the verbal abuse. All that shit really blocks the flow of good energy and there’s probably deeply rooted psychological issues causing her to act in that way, messing up her chances of being with someone that has the strength to speak up when something is not sitting well with you, like the smoking in the car.
But I like @Malkuth 's point, the 190 million. The ball is really in your court on whether you put more energy into it or not, you have all this tool based subliminal technology at your finger tips and the advantage of being able to use that tech to shift the narrative in whatever direction you like. That’s how I would reframe it anyway.
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I am/was in a similar situation. It’s about what you’re willing to take and accept, without making too much of a song and dance about it. Her reaction to your smoking red line is probably because you’ve never set out your stall before that the woman in question is butting up against your boundaries.
If it’s really over, let it be the day you build up your own resources of love, self respect and reinforce your boundaries. But I’m willing to bet that her respect for you grew when you said no.
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You don’t love her lol
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What male friends 