Personally I don’t like it (unless they grew up together been friends for a very long time and he clearly doesn’t have any romantic intentions) and my girlfriend doesn’t have any
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More or less.
I agree with everything @Spartan has said.
Can’t really say it better.
If you feel threatened or jealous, then you’re smart to face that, talk about it, and deal with it.
I’m just saying that as you deal with it, don’t only treat it as a ‘her issue’, also come at it as a ‘me issue’.
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Thanks for the advice I’m definitely going to take it, not necessarily for this relationship but for life, because we are only one month together and she always hurts me with her words.
Even now I’m in her bed hurt from what she said and she is sitting with her friend.
I don’t know what to do anymore, because I love her, but she always hurt me.
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What did she say?
Only with her for a month and already in love with her?
How long have you known her?
I asked her to not smoke in the car because it is not good for my lungs so she said “there is my personality before you and if you can’t accept it we shouldn’t be together” so I got angry because she said that and she then said “if we are fighting like this we shouldn’t sleep together tonight” so I went home and mid way home she calls me and I try to explain that I just asked her to not smoke in the car and she started shouting and said “so you want to break up?” So I said “yes”.
After that I hang up and she started texting me saying she is sorry and she wants me to come back, I came back of course, and now she sits with her friend and I’m waiting in her bed.
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Bro honestly yalls relationship is a walking red flag
Honestly you probably could have worded that differently but so could she
Viking you would be better of running something like chosen or ascension to help you regain some of that masculine energy and see you’re worth and attract better minded women
I wouldn’t stand for that… I’d be so over that shit quick and go be single for awhile while focusing on myself
Do what you want but just know you deserve and can do better
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You actually handled that pretty well in my book.
Every relationship involves bargaining and negotiation. But some people approach that in more extreme ways.
If you shut down and stop negotiating, you’ll ultimately regret it. But if you stay in the process and keep negotiating, you’ll feel pain, hurt, and disappointment at times.
Staying in it (‘it’ being the disagreement) allows you to see what the relationship really is at this time.
It allows you to react to what is real.
Denial and avoidance are the emotional equivalent of loans. They’ll eventually demand repayment; with interest.
And discord doesn’t mean she’s horrible or you’re horrible. It just means you’re two different people.
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Look the fact that you’re at her house in her bed after she begged you to come back and she’s with her friend instead of you while you’re crying and stuff
That’s just a no no
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It’s easy to say onto the next, but sometimes you gotta go thru some shitty experiences firsthand to learn not to tolerate certain behaviors.
I wouldn’t tolerate what he’s going thru, but then again I’ve been thru my share of shitty experiences.
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If you’re constantly getting hurt by the words she’s speaking to you on a daily basis and you’re only in it for a month …. There’s a problem there
Obviously she has some issues
But at that point it’s time to see your worth and really look at things and see if it’s really best for you or if you should be thinking about doing what’s best for you
Also not be worried and desperate if this ends then oh I might not meet anyone else … bc that’s trash …. There’s so many fine amazing women out there that would love to have someone that actually cares to put effort into the relationship
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190 million.
190,000,000.
It’s probably worth it to keep this number in mind.
It’s the approximate number of unmarried women between 21 and 26 right now.
For context, if you counted from 1 to 190 million at the rate of one number per second, without stopping to take breaths, you would be finished after 6 years.
Whether you choose to stay for now, find someone else, or go off and be single, that you have options is just a straight fact.
Either way, you’ve got this.
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No I broke up with her, I’m home now.
I feel like shit, I hate life.
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I hear you.
That does feel like shit.
(But that doesn’t always mean it’s wrong.)
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(translation: proud of you for standing your ground. even though it feels like shit right now.)
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At this point, I have enough material to write a book about it. lol
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Hey Man
Have your emotional night and tomorrow wake up and make a pact with yourself that you are going to focus on yourself for a bit while healing, then work on letting a better woman come to you
It’s alright that it ended, it’s also not the end of the world man there will be another woman at some point but you should probably focus on yourself and work on enjoying life
Also tell yourself that she lost out on you because you are the prize and if she can’t see that then she wasn’t worth anymore of your time
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She’s toying with you and showing you how she wants to be “played,” man. That’s all it is. The exact tactics she uses on you are the most effective when used on her. Keep the ball rolling and focus on improving yourself—it’s a great opportunity for growth.
One more thing: she obviously wants you.
Only complete and prolonged indifference is game over. Remember that.
I would go for WANTED (not WB) and make it more “fun”.
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I know she wants me I just can’t take her shit anymore.
Even now she is sending me messages that she can’t give up on me and such, but it’s done, and it’s really sad for me because I know she does love me and I love her but she have too much problems.
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Does she want you or does she want the idea of you? Is it out of actually wanting you or a feeling of desperation of being single and not having someone.
If she really loved you man she wouldn’t be playing mind games with you… not to that extent
If that was me after having the night you had i’d probably make her eat those words lol… i’d be like well ya know maybe you should have been there when i came over after you begged me to come back instead of leaving me alone on your bed feeling sad and running off with your little friend … but hey ya know maybe you’ll figure out one day that you lost out on something amazing … not my loss you lost not me … have a nice night leave me alone … then i’d block her on everything and move on
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I don’t know, I don’t even know if I love her or the idea of her, if it’s actually from wanting her or a feeling of desperation of being single and not having someone, or maybe just because the sex is great and she is so beautiful, if I don’t know that about myself I for sure can’t know that about her.
Maybe she doesn’t love me
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