Of course , and I’ll take note of what happens.
QL ST4 - Day 13
Dragon Reborn ST3 - Day 8
Primal Seduction - Day 4
Something similar to what happened to me when I was listening to Ascension has happened to me again, which is that I am questioning the qualities of the good guy (attention: good guy, not nice guy).
I see girls running after bad boys and latching on to them with such force even if they hurt them, it’s so strange, it’s so unfair and wrong.
I met a girl who is obsessed with her ex and who continues to suffer because of him because he teases her in front of everyone and is engaged with another girl. Despite all this she continues to keep up with him and wants him back. There is no logic in that, it is so wrong.
When I see these things I wonder if I am wrong or if I think wrong. I’m a good guy and I don’t like making people suffer, neither a girl. My mother always told me that I’m a good-hearted boy, but now I don’t think it’s seen as a value anymore. Everyone seems to be chasing the most asshole. Maybe I’m wrong.
As a good guy, I don’t feel like a weak or effeminate person, on the contrary! But isn’t it that my friendliness, education and kind manners are perceived badly?
What I keep asking myself is: What can I do if I am a good man, what fault do I have? Do I have to insult and mistreat girls because they love me? Are women so selfish and masochistic?
If I behaved like that, it wouldn’t be me anymore. I’m not bad. And I don’t know why women have such distorted tastes.
It just seems such unfair to me.
edit:
Going back to some evaluations I can say that in reality I am more of a nice guy. No excuses.
I tried to remember some things from the past to ensure it and this is came out.
Yesterday all night I cried like a baby reminding myself that who I am, the nice guy that I am, has brought me only trouble and disappointment. But it was a bit gratifying to recognize the truth of who I am and the pain I felt and still feel motivates me to change.
It’s true: Nice Guys always finish last.
Dude! Stop! Just stop!
I’ve been here. You’ve been told to do X and you’ll get Y.
Love, sex, attraction doesn’t obey “logic” or “rationality” or “fairness”.
It’s a myth you have to be mean to have women chase you hard and lust after you.
TBH I’m guessing you’ve been hurt emotionally in similar places I’ve hurt emotionally.
How about continuing to run PS at three times per week. Maybe Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. My guess is PS is bringing this shit up.
Next what is your plan for having women in your life? Girlfriend? Wife? Casual sex? ONS? FWB?
One more thing. DR I think is working well on you man so give yourself credit.
It’s so frustrating…
No problem I can do it.
I want a girlfriend.
A lot of shit is going in the surface. It’s heavy.
I understand. I’ve been there. For 2 weeks on DR I literally felt my stomach was going through a dough mixer.
If you need more rest days, take them.
As for a girlfriend, what all have you done in terms of relationships, dating, PU? Seminars? Videos? Home study courses?
PS Books by Dr. John Gottman might help.
I read some seduction material and interacted with some girls who go out with me and my group.
I’ll search for him, thanks.
Here might be some ideas:
Thanks for the ideas are very useful I will make good use of them.
QL ST4 - Day 14
Dragon Reborn ST3 - Day 9
Primal Seduction - Day 5
I am yearning more and more to become a bad boy, an asshole (or call him a strong man) and completely destroy my old self, all of which is motivated and stimulated by anger and frustration.
I feel deep inside that I no longer want to be disrespected or seen as a pussy by both men and women. My kind attitudes and funny mood are misinterpreted and seen as a sign of weakness.
I can no longer allow it.
I understand. I’m glad to hear you are tired of being overlooked or disrespected, and that you want to feel, exist, and be perceived as strong.
Have you ever read the book “No More Mr Nice Guy”?
I think this is part of PS bring up things, and DR stage 3 pushing you in a certain direction.
I think you also deserve to congratulate yourself. From my perspective you’ve gone from blaming women, to examining yourself. This is not an easy transition to make.
I had read it once, yes.
I’m growing a lot yes. Thanks for the encouraging words.
Okay how do you want to be the type of man that you think will attract the type of women you want?
A man who doesn’t care too much about what other people thought, self-confident and a little arrogant. Not taking a shit from women or anybody else. But the best thing would be to pursue your life goal by not giving a damn about everything.
Perhaps did you mean NOT giving a damn about everything?
Alright have you read “When I Say No I Feel Guilty” by Manuel Smith?
Yes exactly.
No I haven’t. What it’s about?
Assertiveness and how people try to manipulate you and how to respond tactfully yet hold your ground.
How to be strong without being mean.
It seems an intetesting book I’ll check for this too.