I wasn’t pissed about the threesome, was really pissed she gave some random guy that…
Again shows the little “barometer” that girls have lol
In the beginning, I told her how it was going to be if she wanted to be with me. The reason being that I am a man of my word, and part of that is not making promises I am not sure I’ll be able to keep.
I knew myself well enough (were talking around twenty years ago) to know that if I had an opportunity, I would take it no matter what.
So yes, she loved me enough to accept that. She has only recently gotten into it herself.
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As a real man should…
Fucking love you bro for doing that and saying it. You have no idea the chain reaction that creates if even 1 guy does that.
So many dudes break their word and offer up false promises… cascades into the next guy that girl meets.
She had no reason to feel possessive about some random guy, no relationship there.
It can be different if it’s with your significant other.
Nah it’s still fucked up man
I guess I just wasn’t the guy for her…
If she was dating a famous dude for example, she would pull all the tricks of threesomes and shit
Its just accepting that im not that guy… yet
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Maybe it’s me taking that as being not enough…
Not good enough…
Idk.
It’s a weird dynamic between ambition and insecurity.
A lot of dudes mean it when they say it, or it is just assumed when you get into a relationship without ever being discussed.
They don’t think about wether or not they’ll be able to keep the promise months or years in when (slang for cat) presents itself.
Part of having integrity is not letting your heart write a check that your self control can’t cash.
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Exactly…
Thats why for me in terms of girls…
Im so picky man…
Every girl I have sex with I’m prepared to accept them as my baby momma lol
Im drawn towards girls I’d marry man
I had sex once with a girl I wasn’t like 100% about and I swear to you it made me sick and ashamed of myself for like a month man…
Most guys are okay with having sex with an avg girl just for the sake of it but I can’t do that lol
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Like I’d rather have like 1 amazing girl than 1000 mediocre ones
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You weren’t that guy FOR HER. At the time.
Or a healthier way to look at it is that she wasn’t that girl for you. (Both are true)
That’s nonsense. Better to get it into your head (since you aren’t in hers so you can never really know) that she just couldn’t handle sharing you.
Read my DR journal. I get into some stuff about how changing the stories we tell ourselves about the parts we don’t know helps.
I recommend a book called “How to Have Sex With Beautiful Women” by Joe Rabin. Talks about developing a mindset of “Of COURSE she wants to fuck me” and how that changes how you show up to them as a result.
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Yeah but I can’t lie to myself bro. She was like everything for me. Like she was that girl that made me never think of other girls lol
she could, lol she already proved wanting to share a guy… why not me? lol…
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I appreciate you for recommending that book bro. Thank you.
I think you’ve misunderstood… I have zero problems with that mindset because thats my default state… Like when I meet girls im into, I always get them. Idk how to describe it but I have zero issues in that regard
pardon me for using numbers here, but im just trying to simply prove a point so its easier to understand
for me getting 10s (on my scale of attraction) is super easy, getting 7s is impossible lol
Sometimes I gotta accept that I loved someone deeper than they did me.
And it’s all good.
Operative word “was”. If you got one that amazing, you CAN get another. They’re rare, but they’re out there and you’ve already proven that you can land one. That’s no lie.
She shared a random dude who she just wanted to bang and had no real connection to. That’s very different than someone she was emotionally attached to. Also no lie.
yeah but I don’t care about that though… girls can be emotionally attached to their gay best friend… its not sexual whatsoever… I had a girl who had a deep emotional connection with when I was younger, she fucked all my friends and put me in friend zone lmao… “cause she didn’t wanna jeopardize friendship”
I don’t know what to tell you here. I don’t have that issue. Like, at all. That said, if that’s how you are, there is nothing wrong with that.
I’ll take all of the above, thank you.
One thing I found is that when I really started mentally developing myself, the girls who I thought were amazing, the ones who devastated me by leaving me started to look pretty mediocre in retrospect.
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You have the most mature definition of love based on your experience…
But in the 20s… companionship is usually secondary… that definition is lost
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I’ve found the opposite man…
The better I get as a man, the more and more I just get less girls lol
I had more girls when I was riding the bus and with 10$ to my name than I did running a 100K+/month business
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