I went to bed early last night, just kind of laid there and decompressed. Then I thought to myself “What’s wrong here?” And I thought about my job, the amount of times I’ve come in in the morning and I can’t even settle in, just a bunch of issues. How I do my best to not get stressed but it happens anyway. I’m only human, I’d love to be able to just deal with this shit without it triggering my anxiety and stress levels but it feels like I’m not there yet. So the idea of “Yeah but the job isn’t the problem, you’re the problem. You should learn to control your stress and anxiety better.” Yeah or maybe I work for a bad company? I don’t really know why I’m so quick to blame myself for environments that aren’t good for me. When I worked retail for a bit and got burned out and depressed from all that instead of showing compassion I just criticized myself for not being able to suck it up like everyone else.
Kind of leads me to my next topic. I’ve been digging in more with how to license music and make stuff for TV shows and such. But I stopped the other day and asked myself if that was just another rat race. If I can make stuff I like, that I feel good about producing, and make money? Hell yeah. But if I find myself in a situation where I’m working on stuff because it’s what a network wants or whatever, that’s not any different from a regular job. See, that’s the mentality I want to get out of. I don’t want to be in the “oh man I have to make money to survive” mentality. I want to be in the “fuck yeah I’m doing something with meaning for myself and making money from it”.
The “I need to make money” mentality causes me to…
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Convince myself a needed job is only “temporary” while I get on my feet. Meanwhile I stay there longer than I should and waste years of my life
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Put aside real passions because I don’t have time for them
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Delude myself into believing this is how the world works and resign myself to a fate of doing crap I have no interest in doing
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Compromise my own internal values and settle for less than I could have in life
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Give my power away to someone outside of myself. Manipulated by fear and grow resentful of both myself and the person taking away my time.
I mean is it that insane to actually live a life of fulfillment and make enough money to live comfortably? The fact we live in a world where that’s thought to be reserved for a privileged or lucky few is absolutely fucked. You know how many people I’ve talked to where the common sentiment is “Well that’s just how it works, you don’t always get to do what you want in life sometimes you just have to work a job you’re ok with and try to be happy”. Why do people do this? Just close off possibilities by default? More importantly why do they think it’s true? Just because they associate with other people that believe the same thing?
It’s depressing as fuck. And the fact that I never wanted to buy into it but it felt like almost everyone around me held this sentiment was even more depressing. I constantly felt like I was too idealistic and I had to lower my expectations just because someone else didn’t get to where they wanted to be.