So, after almost a year of Wanted (I’ve started on January 2023) and almost 5 months of Genesis…
I’m considering switch Wanted with Khan Black.
Primarily because I’m currently experiencing a significant desire to reengage in sexual practices (daoists, tantric). I’ve made attempts in the past, but looking back, I believe I didn’t accomplish much beyond suppressing my sexual energy.
I’m beginning to observe certain sexual challenges in my relationship. The level of sexual attraction remains quite strong for both of us, but in practical terms, our sexual encounters have notably decreased. (there are still numerous instances throughout the day involving kisses, touches, sexual comments, etc.)
We’ve talked about this matter, although I have the impression that excessive conversations tend to complicate things, transforming what should be spontaneous and natural into a complex mental journey (while she, on the other hand, seems quite content with these discussions, she says “we are improving”).
My girlfriend’s challenge stems from her past experiences where she felt pressured to have sex frequently in previous relationships. Now, she is grappling with a similar fear of not being able to meet my sexual expectations by not engaging in intercourse as frequently as before.
On my end, as I’ve mentioned before, my previous experience was different. There came a point with my ex where she expressed that at times when we were intimate, it was more for my sake than her own desire. This revelation shook my world (I felt deceived, and I’m realizing how the difficulty in trusting others has played a central role in my life), and… I began to harbor doubts and insecurities.
I’ve noticed that these same doubts are resurfacing within me now, and my typical reaction, as I’ve done in the past, is to refrain from keep going if I sense that she may not be in the mood at that moment (problem is that most of the time he would simply need more foreplay)
I notice that when this happens I feel frustration and an immediate decrease in sexual desire, I guess what I’m doing is basically repressing sexual energy.
So now, as I’m still considering this I’d like to ask:
Is there a suggested timeframe for each stage? (as I remember it was when I listened to DR for example)
I think I will continue to listen to Genesis, primarily because I haven’t seen significant results so far, but I had hoped (and still do) that it would assist me in finding my purpose.
Can this be too much alongside Khan Black?