I was writing someone here, and I’m going to share it. It was my first reason for using LBFH yesterday. But the more I wrote, the more I shared some fears about loving myself. I’ve been bumping into something while using Genesis, and my questions dug closer to the truth.
Here it is:
I shared some on the STKS thread about me needing self-love last night, but I kept something out. But I’ll share it here. It involves narcissism.
My initial push to run LBFH yesterday was an insecurity I felt when reading about our current US president. This is not a political sharing. I just saw and felt some things in myself while reading about him, and it scared me.
I saw a man disconnected from people. I saw him hiding from change and challenges. Also (and my major reason for running LBFH), was the man’s actions say he has no friends, noone he can just relax around.
His disconnected responses make him sound like a true narcissist, and that’s what scared me. Making everything about himself. I’ve noticed myself drifting that way lately, and fuck, it’s lonely.
Pushing people away works for a while for myself, but it just gets too damn lonely. It starts to really hurt. True narcissists have no self-love. It’s pure falsehood that they only love themselves.
And I don’t want to live there. I just haven’t had the courage to do differently. Genesis has provided some courage, which is my main reason for starting Primal. But that lacking of self-love has been making noise.
And I still feel reluctance. I’ve never done this. I’ve consistently relied on other people to love me.
Can I do this?
I ask myself this. Why? I’ve not done this before.
Who am I to love myself?
Do I have any value?
Will I be alone once I begin loving myself?
Is this worth doing?
Will I allow people in and be hurt?
Who would protect me? Will I?
Those are actual fears and thoughts about loving myself. It even sounds like recon. Yeah, some.
I’ll leave this. The threat of narcissism scared me into using LBFH.