My former best friend — whom I was friends with for almost 20 years — was diagnosed as narcissistic. I don’t know much else about it other than how he was, but one thing is for sure: I’ll never again let an individual like that into my life again.
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Did you discover anything about yourself when you finally ended it?
I’ve been asking myself, why did I attract this type of experience?!
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I discovered a lot, actually. But I focused my healing on the things I could’ve done better in certain situations, such as setting boundaries and not allowing him to weasel his way back into my life. But, there were times where I clearly was antagonizing him out of frustration and that’s not who I want to be either.
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It stinks because I was essentially raised by his parents as well. But I have noticed that he has kept his distance from me ever since I rejected him, and I’m cool with that.
The only thing we can do is work on ourselves 
Without your products I could never have the guts to leave our friendship and male peace with him.
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huge leaps and bounds.
No more hiding or lying to myself.
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You’ll drive yourself nuts trying to figure out the why. Maybe you didn’t even attract it in your life, maybe it just happened. But that’s just me. I think we do attract some things, I think others are random, and sometimes the randomly chaotic things seem like they should have a deeper reason behind them but they don’t. Mysteries of the universe. Humans always seeking patterns and all that.
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You’re asking the wrong question. The real question you should be asking yourself is, are narcissists willing to heal? And the answer is often times a resounding no.
And that is the real problem.
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Well, you can’t help someone who doesn’t have a problem with their behavior. They don’t see how they are as wrong or as a problem.
It’s hard to imagine this, because we assume that everyone else is a normal person like us.
Thing is they aren’t. If you’re in one of these peoples lives, they see you as a means to an end. A tool to use to get whatever they want.
That means that if you’re trying to help one, you’re putting yourself into a position where they can use you, mess with your life, and hurt you.
If they can they will.
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This coincides what I said.
The right question you need to be asking is: are narcissists willing to heal?
We are capable of anything, long as there is an openness to do so in the first place.
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A complete unwillingness to admit that they have a problem is an integral part of the condition.
Trying to fix them is like trying to pet a rattlesnake.
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The lies, the head trips 
Exactly which is why traditional wisdom is to avoid them if and when possible.
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They do these things because it’s the only thing that they actually enjoy.
So the generosity, helpfulness, loving care… all an act?
I mean, it depends if they’re NPD or narc traits.
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With an actual narc, yeah. They’re expecting something for it, or trying to set the fishhook.
With someone who just has some issues that might make them look narcissistic, it might be genuine.
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Makes me think of covert contracts.
Well, basically I am probably just kicking a dead horse trying to wake it up with my crazy vision of narcissism dying off.
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Wonder how to tell the difference with this.
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I wish I had some words of wisdom on that, but I’ve been, let’s call it, imperfect at avoiding them in my personal life.
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True, Not all of them are full blown narcissist 
