Man I sympathize with having controlling parents.
Like you said, you already know the ultimate answer is to move out. It’s difficult to go against parents who raised you; I personally have a complicated relationship with my mother. I love her dearly but man she has a special skill for getting under my skin and triggering me, and even my older sisters (she’ll make subtle demeaning comments to them, but that has to do with her own self-esteem issues).
IMO, providing shelter while a kind/caring gesture, is also a form of control.
Do you have the financial means to move out?
Given that subliminals aren’t necessarily the answer here, I’d personally go with Emperor or Khan. Emperor helped me immensely with buckling down and becoming financially independent. Khan is also a good option, but I’d be wary of getting into arguments with your dad since there seems to be a power dynamic going on there.