"When the teacher is ready, the student appears."
Most people have heard of the saying “when the student is ready, the teacher appears”. It’s incomplete because it doesn’t factor in that it goes both ways. That every interaction or relationship with any entity (not just people but systems as well) is a collaborative creation. The perfect key fits into the grooves of the perfect lock, but the perfect lock is shaped by the edges of the perfect key. Whatever powerlessness, blaming, accountability, sentiment, morality, conscious negotiation, agency, emotion or meaning you project onto that objective law of symmetry, does not change the fact that it exists. If the key is even 1% off in symmetry, then it doesn’t fit into the lock. Victim mentality tends to overlook this, lol. They think it’s all about “fault” (a linear, one-sided model), when its all about fit (a two-sided symmetry). The key isn’t “wrong” for not fitting, and the lock isn’t “bad” for not accepting it. It’s simply a matter of alignment. Being able to recognize that is the first step to getting back your power. If you start looking inward, becoming aware of what you’re aligned with (consciously or subconsciously), and begin choosing differently - then you open up the possibility of new experiences, people, and systems to collaboratively create with.