With new users the PM functionality is not present until they reached their first Trust Level on the forum. Doesn’t take long a few days and some messages. The latter you have down as you two have been using this thread as an instant messenger. 
To answer the original question, the subliminals won’t force their script on you, they don’t change who you are. You have certain ideas of how you envision the goals and it will align with those goals. For example, while I was running Khan, I kept wanting to work out and lose weight and grow fit because I hold a belief that physical health and fitness is a very big part.
The subs supported me there. Even before physical shifting and Emperor Fitness.
However, the descriptions are meant to give a general direction. So don’t get a sub where the description is completely opposite to what you want. To name an example, we had a guy get Iron Throne and then proceed to tell us that sex and dating was the last thing he wanted. Bit confusing he would get a sub that was geared almost entirely around sex and dating. Can it be used for a marriage? Yes, but there are better options.
In your example, just because Emperor makes you skilled and comfortable in bed doesn’t mean it’ll make you put all that into practice. In your case, it may translate that into you feeling very comfortable in/with your own body. And when the time comes for sex, there would not be any anxiety and you could focus completely on the experience.
In other news, Saint and Fire nowadays get tagged so many times by people that it is becoming ever more likely they will not respond. They have told us that if anybody really wants to ask a question they should use the support channels available on the store.
While it may happen in our case as well eventually, for now RVConsultant and myself will still show up when we are tagged and check if it is a question we can answer, the community is perfectly equipped to answer or if we should indeed pass it on.