Following the recent derailment in the ZP thread lol. I was really interested in hearing everyone’s thoughts on the whole alpha/beta dynamic.
I think we can all agree nobody here wants to be boxed in to some limited set of characteristics. But having said that the alpha/beta dynamic does have a role to play in how things unfold in life and any potential difficulties that might arise.
For example. Working for an employer you don’t like who mistreats you. Can you be alpha in that very situation? I’d argue no. If you left yes, that would be the alpha thing to do. But if you had to stay for family, money concerns, or in our most recent case a global pandemic then I’d say you have to be “beta” in order to keep your job. But it’s really just playing the beta, not truly embodying those qualities.
Ideally we all live self fulfilled lives where we don’t need to play that part. But in my case as I’ve grown it’s gotten harder and harder to play that role because it feels in gross misalignment with how I feel my life should be. In my experience the more of those alpha traits I take on, the harder it can get to integrate without it feeling like something is rubbing me the wrong way. That’s not to say I’m a shining example of confidence, but continual sub usage has something bubbling underneath the surface that wants to be expressed and hasn’t yet.