Do you love her?
says she likes her self the way she is. Am sure she doesnât because anytime I bring up the topic she gets angry.
What actually is love? I need to understand this first 
Do you have love that fills your heart with warm energy and this warm energy grows bigger every time you are together
Youâll probably thinks this sounds judgmental.
If your friends give you that much shit in your choice of partner, Iâd get new friends.
If you feel the need to constantly bring this up and try to get her to change, she might need a new bf.
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Never felt the way, we had good sex ,play but that one I havenât felt it.
Am thinking about changing her shape, but how much will I change.
Thatâs only 110lbs. Most women would KILL to be 5â9 at 110 lbs. You want her to be fat?
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Truth to be told I canât walk her down the aisle I wouldnât want my female kid to be that way.
Besides am slim too, I need a more flesher woman to balance up.
I think am suffering from oneitis now
With all due respect bro -
Youâre immature (not an insult, rather an observation)
She is not the problem, you are. Itâs okay to have preferences but chastisement isnât good.
Love her as she is or leave and find another but donât be surprised when you see your âfriendsâ with her.
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Maybe she gets upset because you just wonât accept and love her as she isâŚ
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The minute you let her go, one of your male friends will be dating her.
Her metabolism is what it is. You want her to force her body to work differently?
Maybe she deserve a different boyfriend than you. Someone who wouldnât make her feel insecure about her body and who doesnât feel insecure about her. 
She is NOT severely slim. Especially at 20.
7 breakups? Come on man! The girl canât change how her body works. Just let her go so she can find someone else who is not going to break up with her 7 times.
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I was going to say narcissistic
In Africa here , how we see women is different compared to the whites.
Our women are. mostly with portable/big breast and ass unlike the whites folks that are naturally slim.
I just want her to be healthy looking and add a bit flesh
Everyone else already said it but Iâll repeat it -
Accept her the way she is, or move on bro.
If you find her unattractive, then go find a girl who turns you on.
It sounds like her bone structure and body shape are what they are, sheâs not gonna get big boobs and a fat ass overnight, or even a year from now.
Also, letâs say you force feed her to gain weight and pay for her to get cosmetic surgery, whoâs to say it will change her appearance for the better? Whoâs to say youâll like the way she looks when she gains weight?
Let her go man, if you canât accept her the way she is, then both of you deserve better.
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I was going to say emotionally abusive. You canât treat people like that. The funny thing is that if she decides to dump him, it is very likely that he starts chasing and her begging her to come back⌠only to abuse her again. Iâve seen this too many times.
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I am a victim of chastising people especially women. That ainât good I know.
Actually I donât beg her to come back but we always to come back, I promise to be a new leaf at a point this insecurity comes up again.
She Loves me for some reasons I donât understand.
Youâre lacking a level of maturity that can not be taught or explained. You need a wake up call, not advice.
Caring if your friends like your girlfriend, especially after three years of dating, is immature.
Trying to change her and breaking up with her and then getting back with her just because of her body type isnât just immature, in my opinion it must be very very harmful to her self confidence.
Saying that this is because of your friendâs instead of you is avoiding responsibility.
Breaking up with her because you donât like her body seven times, and then getting back with her probably just because you got horny and wanted to have more sex, is very cowardly, and lacks masculinity, because as a man you need to stick by your decision.
I agree with @Trader and I wonât be nice about it, she deserves better.
Someone will love her with every fiber of their being, and treat her right, and defend her when people insult her, and call her beautiful instead of shame her, and like her body instead of saying she needs to get surgery⌠and thatâs who she should be with.
hereâs the worst part. ONE OF YOU GUYS WILL REALIZE THIS. Whoever realizes this first is the one who has the power. If you realize it first, youâll stop doing it. Or maybe youâll just realize sheâs not the person for you, and youâll break up with her, and make space for your ideal partner.
But if she realizes it first, sheâll dump you in a second and move on to someone else. And thatâll hurt.
So whatcha gonna do?
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Then thatâs something you have to work on in yourself.
Her body isnât the problem, your mindset is the problem.
The solution is to work on being less judgmental and learn to accept other people as they are. All that starts with you.
I recommend running LBFH and doing self-love meditations. Particularly Shower of Love by Frederick Dodson. Itâs on YouTube.
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