I spent 2.5 hours using pen and paper to rewrite the major themes and objectives of C&C as derived from the narrative story before the features,
then i rewrote the features in a way that would concisely fit into my notebook.
Then I wrote a short list of adjectives that embody crown’s archetype.
It REALLY helps to do that deep work.
Now when I journal in the morning, sometimes I pull out the features summary that’s in my notebook and ask myself which ones I should activate/utilize today.
One day I went on pen/paper and did the “map out your social network visually” exercise and spent an hour on that, barely scratched the surface, I had sooo many deep emotional insights off that.
- people I’ve ghosted because I thought they didn’t like me but actually I killed the relationship
- I was ghosting people partially because I knew I wasn’t doing any “building” work behind the scenes and felt shame
- I mapped them out on an x/y axis of value/connection and one interesting correlation I made is that some of the MOST VALUABLE people in my life were actually my equals who were also equally as ambitious as me. I thought “value” would mean status/social-capital/resources but actually sometimes people bring the most value into my life simply by being a confidant, an activator of my ambition, or a close friend to consult when things are hard.
- some of my absolute best friends are also very low value and simply “fun” relationships.
Doing the social exercise really snap-changed things for me mentally and made me feel much more resourceful, connected, and clear on my leverage and trust. I highly recommend the exercise
