Main Disc. Thread - Wanted Black: Seduce Reality (Now Available!) (Custom Core Available)

[BeingNeo]

Hey man! I’ve been through what you’re going through and what helped me was the revelation that magnetism and charm doesn’t come from chasing people or things, it comes from a belief in self and finding comfort in solitude. Once that happens, wherever you go, you’re in a trance of your own passion and bliss for life that you act as a beacon that attracts people towards you.

Find a purpose if you don’t have one, find some hobby if you don’t have one, try to be in the flow and be authentic and meet people in the flesh. Let your presence, body language, aura, speech and everything about you do the trick, don’t rely on dating apps.

As far as your recon goes, what helped me during recon was just getting out of my mind and taking a few deep breaths and just accepting the feeling for what it was, that feeling soon changes once you acknowledge and accept it. Learn to be instead of resisting.

[SubliminalWarrior]

I have a sense that WB is guiding me toward finding ways to heal and develop my masculinity.

[Fractal_Explorer]

Funny some of the guys on here talk about haircuts. I’m pretty much the opposite route, embracing my longer hair more.

I’m less James Bond smooth refined gentleman on this and more rogue artist aesthetic. Been thinking about saying screw it and finally add onto my tattoo. Possibly have it run down my arm. I’ve always been like “what if they don’t want to hire me?” My first and only tattoo was gonna be on my forearm but I chickened out because of societal pressure and got it on my shoulder. The plan was always to keep adding as I reached achievements in my life and I’m overdue.

Definitely some refinement in how I come across though. Still trying to find my own expression.

[Meridians]

im the vp of sales for saas company and i have full arm sleeves, leg sleeves, and torso. no one cares about that stuff anymore

[Fractal_Explorer]

So I’ve heard. Had a ton of people in my life tell me while growing up I would be unemployable lol

[AlexanderGraves]

Does WB have anything in it for cold reading or generally reading people @answer_group ?

Because its SO EASY for me to read my wife now.
We’ve been “fighting” (her being pissed) for the last days because I decided to spend time alone on Sunday, and I see through all the bs.

All the lies, manipulation, and games she’s playing to get her way.

Which doesn’t work anymore.

It’s obvious af what’s going on.

Also, WB doesn’t actively ruin your relationship, but I see why it’s dangerous in LTRs. Because you suddenly clearly see what’s TRULY going on lol
The funny thing is. I am not mad at her.
I am in abundance. I am fine, but I am also not taking shit from anyone anymore.

Interesting revelation though:
Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

This is basically what came out after those 4 days, when she said she feels like she is never asked about anything in the marriage. What I do with the house, bills, etc.
Now, I might be traditional there but I keep this away from her intentionally, so she can focus on other things.

However, I remember a masculinity guru once saying, “If your wife has no agency over her life or anything in the marriage, rest assured, she will use the agency she has to not have sex with you.”

To me, her claim seems like an excuse, because she’s free to whatever the fuck she wants with her life, I never stopped her from anything, and small purchases, I don’t see why I would mention this.
Or even repairing the fucking heating in the house. I just went and had it fixed by myself. She was pissed because I didn’t call someone to do it.

This kinda shit.

Still, curious how you guys do it.

On another note, there ARE a bunch of hot girls popping up everywhere

[Kyuss]

You mean the power dynamics become visible to you just like the code to Neo in Matrix?

[Doc]

Im in a samilar boat like you and i think i will
Add heartsong to the stack after this washout

[AlexanderGraves]

Not that obvious but it’s just easily noticeable.

For example she wanted to talk yesterday and brought up a bunch of things. While that happened my heart was pumping.

I was confused why.

Then after I didn’t budge and she realized it it all came forth. She didn’t actually want to talk. Just wanted me to budge with tricks.

After I realized that my heart went to normal again.

So my body told me.

[unusualfellow]

Such a surreal sub. Every time I look in the mirror even when I just wake up… you handsome devil…. Awesome stuff

[GoldenTiger]

Yooo @AlexanderGraves I’ve never been in a longer term relationship.

Mine is a year long and we are sometime discussing innapropriate behaviors on her part when she is snappy or acting wierd because she lives frustration or different negatives emotions.

Negative emotions can make them act a bit out of line sometime, and as long as it doesn’t cross certain lines, I believe it’s possible to talk about specific behaviors.

[Kyuss]

Is that similar to PCC or different?
Nice insights!

[GoldenTiger]

@AlexanderGraves

Then after I didn’t budge and she realized it it all came forth. She didn’t actually want to talk. Just wanted me to budge with tricks

Like this type of shit, I mean, I don’t know the context for sure, but why did she told you all this? Isin’t there a list, does she need your help? Idk if ot would be possible to ask her why of her behavior.

But will need more info, it’s veru hard anyway in a middle of emotions to realise what’s going on and call out someone on their behavior.

[Extraordinaire]

Youll be alright king

[SaintSovereign]

@AlexanderGraves

Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

Naw.

But, my lady is a fashionista who has a penchant for pushing me into indulgence, so if I do mention that I want to buy something that I don’t need, she’s the bad influence urging me to just do it under the guise of “self care.” Then once I make that purchase, she gets all dolled and sexied up and says, “since we’re spending money, can I have [x]???”

She usually gets it.

[Pyro]

@AlexanderGraves

Interesting revelation though:
Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

This is basically what came out after those 4 days, when she said she feels like she is never asked about anything in the marriage. What I do with the house, bills, etc.

My wife and I are very transparent with each other. We are a team that doesn’t really have defined roles.

We have joint checking and saving accounts and our own checking. Both of our paychecks go into joint checking then the automation takes over, we each have our personal paid biweekly as an allowance and then automatically money is dispersed to savings, investments etc.

Both of us know exactly what is paid out of our joint accounts. No need on personal ones. She also likes working around the house with Power tools and is good at it.

If you combine your talents and assets together, you have a lot of leverage to use in life compared to most people. We are working towards the same goals. Also we do monthly couples counciling as a check in to make sure we are attacking the problems that need to be solved.

[Alphamale]

@AlexanderGraves

While that happened my heart was pumping.

It’s the new habits and behaviors getting rewritten by your subconscious. There also that globus sensation sometimes.
When ypu were running CFW for example you would have reacted with a different faciap expression, more caring maybe? Now that ypu are doing this non-reaction thing, there is friction in the subconscious mind. That is why you experience it. After doing it a few times, it’ll vanish. It’s definitely not for anxiety or stress. It’s just the friction of change, which can also be stress but not in the sense of anxiety.

[AlexanderGraves]

@SaintSovereign

Then once I make that purchase, she gets all dolled and sexied up and says, “since we’re spending money, can I have [x]???”

She usually gets it.

Well, more money definitely would make that easier for me.
No need to discuss that kinda stuff when money is not a problem.

Then again, what you described is exactly the kinda femininity I’m looking for.

[mountainguy]

@bombayduck

I feel like my go-to sub when on recon is Heartsong (which I’ve never ran before), I’m wondering if I should just drop WB for HS. Or maybe I should just tough it out and see how things go, I don’t know.

I know everyone is in love with WB, but HS really seems like it will deliver what you want more than WB. Maybe a combination of the two would work for you even, although depending on what you want you may need to drop WB at some point to focus on the person HS brought to you.

E: Pursuing your own personal interests and goals while not getting totally monk mode, and specifically not chasing companionship directly, is a great way to keep space open for someone in alignment with who you are to enter your life.

[R.E.M.P.O]

I can relate to all of it, buddy. Stay true to your beliefs, stand your ground, and you’ll exude an irresistible confidence. Just remember, even if she’s mad and won’t admit it, she’s secretly drawn to that sexy quality.