I’ve done Ascension about 2 years ago, I was thinking about it again but I do Emperor already and BDLM to try (it works)
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I agree that Ascension and Love Bomb sound like a good combo. Remember to use shorter loops as needed.
And listen to the people here; but don’t listen to us too much. We don’t actually know you, and are often projecting onto you based on our own past painful experiences and lessons.
The books recommended by @RVconsultant are high-quality and evidence-based. Anything by the Gottmans.
Most people in this world have relationship challenges. So just work on your growth and your improvement, but try not to take the emotions and the rumination overboard.
And don’t worry too much about ’choosing the wrong subliminal’. As long as you use your sense and are in the ballpark, the facts are that 1) there are really no unhelpful programs here, and 2) running any program will tend to ‘lead’ and ‘push’ you intuitively to the eventual program that fits your needs perfectly.
I’d also recommend running a program from the Dragon line: Rebirth, Limit Destroyer, or even (eventually) Dragon Reborn itself.
Finally let me say, it’s great that you’re willing to take responsibility and to be accountable, but remember that you and your wife have both created your current situation together. You’re an adult but so is she. So take up your responsibilities and do what you need to do to be a strong contributor in your home. But don’t go overboard with the guilt. Guilt often ends up being just one more way to avoid responsibility. It’s easier to stand around crying about what a terrible person you are than to actually start changing something.
Treat yourself well and do the right things: you don’t have to choose one or the other.
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I’ll recommend LBFH over LB personally.
LB is felt by others, for sure, but it might take some time for others to acclimate to it. I’ve had recon with LB which I never had with LBFH
LBFH, from my understanding and experience, is designed to radiate out to others instantly. For example, a few months back I ran LBFH one morning, and all day my coworker was laughing at anything and everything. Laughter is a stress reliever, and I’ve seen it happen again and again when running LBFH.
Considering the stress between the two presently, I’d choose that.
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Good advice has already been given so I will balance it out with some encouragement:
- You are a man. You are not weak. Women don’t date weak men. You have had moments of weaknesses like we all do but a woman has given you children which is the greatest act of validation.
- You are a father. Of 4 children! Whether you raise them or not, your genes will live on (but do raise them. Children do well when they have a father in their lives). 4 children is also much more than most people have these days which is normally 0 or 1.
- You had the balls to own up to your mistakes. That’s excellent! Now do go ahead and follow the advice given here.
- You will be fine whether or not this relationship works out. Give it your best shot but don’t trip yourself about it. Focus on being a better man and husband and father. Those skills will be useful any day.
- Don’t apologize to your wife after an event. Only do so when in the heat of it and when you realize you are wrong. Maybe you said something unkind and the next moment you take a deep breath and say “I am sorry, I didn’t mean that”. But don’t apologize later in the day or after a long duration.
- Now go forth and conquer!
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I’m not a beta weak male. Not sure how that was conveyed.
I love my wife and our family a lot, they’re extremely important to me. Not sure how that’s weakness.
My parents were coming to visit next month, I told them to cancel their trip and they did. My wife is more important than anyone outside our immediate family. I don’t need to grow a pair, I’ve told her off repeatedly and she’s got serious issues and now, she can f off and she’s not coming.
Do you see what I do on a daily basis in my home? Subpar partner? You don’t even know me or what I do LOL I do a lot in the house. Not complaining, I enjoy it and being with my kids. But to say subpar, idk, I tell my wife she can go rest when she gets sick at night and I do all her chores she usually does, and then I go and work on the business we’re starting up and I stay up till 2am
Didn’t know the No Subs for Pregnant women. Thank you, but why?
I’m aware of what parents go through, I’m also aware that they have help a lot of times too and that you need time with your spouse too
Why you’re thinking I didn’t already apologize, I’m not sure. I did before she talked to me. And I bought a bunch of books to read for myself and for us both
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Thank you
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Why those dragon ones?
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Thank you for mentioning this!
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And now you have 2 more that are from one of the top authors in the field of relationships.
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You wanted help.
No.
Because I don’t know what you do on a daily basis or otherwise.
So since I don’t know you or what you do or what you already have done, I had to decide if I should say something you might have already done, or do I say nothing and then perhaps you don’t get an idea that might help you.
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As an addition to what everyone else has said…
Emperor has a very particular “flavor” to it that I can recognize, having seen its effects on me when I ran it and on others who run it. Love Bomb / LBFH can probably help, but Hero’s virtue scripting would be my alternative suggestion to take the rough edges off Emperor’s polarizing effect. And it might be a more efficient transformation than a HS/LB double whammy. You really only need to pick one out of PN / PS / LB / HS etc that best describes your desired direction or transformation.
HOM seems more in line with your direction, but its also a more dense script and you’ve already established yourself with the original Emperor. Hero Origins would be a way of taking that strong frame Emperor gives which can be overpowering to a woman and nudging it in a more appealing and productive direction which would also benefit the business.
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They are healing programs that facilitate transformative engagement with your internal emotional and motivational resources.
If you’re attempting to show up in your family in different ways or in new ways, those programs will help.
Also, have a look at the subliminal called Lineage: Mandate Eternal. I think it will blow you away.
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Fair.
Which is HOM?
Oh wow. I will look at that. Thank you very much
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Emperor: The House of Medici
There are so many good programs here it’s ridiculous.
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I would recommend this too. Will heal familial relationship dynamics including those between other family members and even friends.
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So my wife’s biggest thing, I was just talking to her, is about a friend of ours.
I knew her in high school and had feelings for her, but then stopped talking to her for a number of years and then reconnected.
Her and my wife are friends now but my wife doesn’t like that I reached out to her in the first place.
I have no feelings at all for this person, I kinda see no no attraction to her to be completely honest with you but she’s a good person. I won’t overlook that. She really is a good person I just don’t have those feelings for her. But no matter what, my wife said she’ll believe me after I talk to a therapist.
I said I can easily not talk to her, because I don’t and I can easily not see her, because she lives across the country. But my wife said no because it’ll be awkward for her because she’s friends with her.
I’m confused.
One thing I definitely have is unresolved trauma from the past. Maybe there’s something in here I can listen to?
What @Malkuth said. House of Medici.
There are a lot of options as the responses demonstrate. I’m in my fourth year of using the programs, and if I’d stuck with Emperor rather than switching to Stark things would have gone a lot differently. Emperor does create a very high status aura and that can be overwhelming to women especially if it’s just on its own and if they’re not in a secure place emotionally. I had my own experience of that in 2020 which I won’t go into detail on, just before I switched to Stark. If I had had more experience with the subs at the time, and the current range had been available, I would have made a different decision on how to handle the stack after the initial few months of Emperor.
The way I tend to handle my stack management nowadays is to run a short cycle of potentially useful new programs when they come out to get a feel for them, so that I can compare that against the direction I want to take things. It’s like telling a story, except the subs themselves are the different plot elements. I’ve also come to realise that getting that feel for each sub is contingent on being good at observing your own internal state and how it shifts during a cycle. That’s how I came up with the suggestion for Hero.
Whichever stack you end up going with, you’ll end up doing better with it if you can find your own techniques for working with and observing your own subconscious. I’ve known this for a while (just look at some of my earlier posts), but like Morpheus told Neo, there’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path. Results improve once you learn how to talk to your non verbal subconscious mind.
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