Are you listening to DRR or DRG?
DRR yes
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I’m wondering if that might help in terms of attracting healthier women.
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What book/Card set is this?
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Or trauma-free anyone.
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There are levels, some people are so traumatized that they become totally crazy and if they can’t see that they can’t work on it.
Some people have minor traumas that doesn’t really manifest into behavioral problems.
It also depends on their brainwashing, certain brainwashing can make trauma worst.
I know a girl that her dad wasn’t a good dad, he was pretty bad actually but not as worst as mine, but her mother always told her that all man are shit and she told her that her dad hit her and stuff which never happened, she is now a man hater and she gets into relationships just to “destroy” man or whatever I don’t know she is pretty crazy.
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I suspect that reflection on this exact point that you’ve expressed in your own words here will hold the answer and solution to your original question.
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How is it?
It’s good. I like using it with clients.
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@RagnarLothbrok As I read over this thread, my intuition pointed towards Heartsong or Primal Romance. If the direct path is what you want of course.
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Heartsong has relationship trauma healing in it, and I don’t think it’s even confined to romantic ones.
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You’re always going to find traumatized people. That’s just part of the dating game. You have to have a combination of compassion (looking past their traumas and stories) and boundaries (not letting someone treat you poorly, not justifying staying in bad relationships, just because you are excusing their behavior as “because of their trauma.”)
Attracting more women means attracting more traumatized women AND more non-traumatized women… so your boundaries need to be stronger and exercised more frequently.
Especially considering that your aura will be so attractive on certain subs that they will try to seduce you, in certain cases… traumatized women potentially even more than non-traumatized women because they’re more susceptible to act on emotional upheaval and attraction.
You’re also young, and I wouldn’t worry about it too much. everyone has trauma. young people espcially are just more dramatic, it’s a fact. In reality, suffering from narcisstic parents it’s nothing. it’s the past. it’s a story. what matters is what does the person act like NOW. are they a good person? good to you? What matters is what they made the story mean in terms of how they choose to act.
what you really want to avoid is being in a relationship where you are justifying the way someone treats you by saying things like “oh yeah she’s extremely angry when she gets jealous but, it’s understandable, she has such and such a history with her parents” or “oh ya she hits me sometimes, but at least she keeps it in check, her father beat her daily.”
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narcisissm and borderline personality disorder have an interesting quality…
the relationships END UP toxic, but they actually start off WAY BETTER than average relationships.
You might be jaded, and therefore only romantically responding to women who are putting up a front and an image of being more bubbly, more happy, more attracted to you than they really are. They seem perfect. You might either be looking for that because you yourself had a narcissistic parent, or just because of some underlying insecurity that the narcissistic shine makes it easier for you to talk to women with. Then once you get to know them, you see their “traumatized side” that they hide from people.
I think you should actually look into youtube channels that discuss romantic narcissism
even better. loook up narcissistic parents and see if you resonate with the way you were treated. don’t worry about labeling your parents as narcissists or not. Just research how narcissistic parents treat their kids and ask yourself if your parents did any of the same to you. Perhaps you have some similar experiences that helps you bond with these women subconsciously.
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i say this with a lot of love and respect for you - just coming from an older, wiser set of life circumstances, where i’ve been through everything you’re going through right now.
this desire is immature.
no offense meant.
the feminine IS drama. your job as a man is not to kill the drama. it’s to embrace it with masculinity. it’s to respond to all attemps at drama with adult masculine love. if you respond to her traumatized little girl with your traumatized little boy, nothing will get done. you’ll find a relationship to settle in and be unhappy. instead of wishing for less drama, wish for more emotional awareness in yourself and others to learn how to navigate that effectively.
i think there’s a christian quote along those lines.
“I pray not for an easier life, but for the strength to succeed in a more difficult one.” (smth like that.)
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I think the best way to learn to deal with drama, immediately identify and cut out toxic/traumatized people, and attract people that are high status in general would be TWTP. Not DRR.
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Thanks a lot @Jouissance
This is really insightful and helped me understand some stuff, it’s true that I’m young and inexperienced so I’m always happy to learn from more experienced people.
Appreciate it.