Why do I attract such girls

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#1

It seems like everytime I use a romance subliminal I attracted girls with trauma, when I used Primal Seduction in the past I attracted my ex gf who’s father died when she was 13 and now with Emperor I attracted a girl from work which has suffered from narcissistic parents.

I don’t judge them of course, is it because I have childhood trauma myself? Like on one side I attract girls that understand what I have been through but on the other side it makes the relationship more difficult because traumatized people are harder to deal with (like myself, sometimes).

Do you guys think this is the reason? If I would do a full run of Dragon Reborn or any other healing subliminal would that change that? Because I don’t want anymore drama with girls.

Thanks for you answers, I will get any answer so feel free to write anything, I won’t take offense.

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#2

Regeneration or Limit Destroyer could help for sure.

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#3

Because you have trauma?

Your external reality is a reflection of your internal.

Girls just shine the mirror on yourself.

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#4

So healing the trauma will change my external reality?

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#5

It could be. I’m not qualified to make that assessment.

However the familiar patterns we fall into relationship wise are a reflection of what we’re most comfortable with deep down. Comfort meaning what’s known, not necessarily good or desirable.

You say you don’t want drama. But how does it make you feel when you think of dating a girl who had a great childhood, supported fully, and is completely thriving. Excited and happy? Or is there hesitation or nervousness there?

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#6

I feel like maybe she wouldn’t be able to understand me and what I have been through, maybe she won’t be able to understand why I behave how I behave (of course it’s on me to heal and whatever but still).

I don’t know :no_mouth:

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#7

The last girl I was with was really able to relate to me and I to her, we really could understand each other but she was totally crazy in the head lmao, too much for me.

#8

Sounds like you do know though. You’ll have to work on that limiting belief that says an emotionally healthy girl wont be able to understand you. I truly believe it’s the opposite, the healthier someone is emotionally the more capacity they have to hold space for someone else because they aren’t triggered by the same patterns.

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#9

Makes sense, if she is emotionally healthy she will have the ability to look outside of her self, unlike the others girls that have been thinking on themselves.

Thanks, I guess I will need to internalize it.

#10

My ex gf, every time I told her about something that bothers me she took offense and started to cry which made me feel bad, at some point I just didn’t tell her if something bothers me because it made me feel guilty.

The last girl, well, she was just crazy, doesn’t matter lmao, but I got conditioned by my ex gf to not tell what I think which made matters with this girl worst.

I’m sharing too much tbh.

#11

Maybe I’m not ready for a relationship

#12

Exactly

#13

I think the fact of childhood trauma is just a lot more prevalent than people realise. Multiple people I’ve been involved with on different levels in the past have had different types of trauma, from early abuse at the hands of family members to deliberately drug infused experiences of sexuality. This were not people who ran in the same circles either.

So far you’ve mentioned PS and Emp, what about conscious guidance with HS?

Also, this statement of Grinberg’s may have relevance: “Each Neuronal Field is affected by the Hyperfield and thus whatever happens to any human being has repercussions on the state of everyone else.” So working on your own internal trauma or helping others with their own could have a cascading effect.

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#14

maybe it would take just 3/more cycles of some healing title and then hs : ) sounds like a road to greater tomorrow

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#15

You’re right. A truly healthy person likely doesn’t fully grasp the difficulties that stem from trauma. This is why they often fail to understand why the other person reacts so “unreasonably” or “harshly” to certain things that seem small in their eyes. While a healthy person certainly possesses some tolerance, sooner or later, they will likely gravitate towards another healthy individual - unless the person with trauma is actively addressing their issues. From this perspective, it also makes sense that people who haven’t experienced trauma and enjoyed a happy, secure childhood tend to be attracted to others with a similar background. The drama that often accompanies trauma is foreign to them.

Said this, you will be best served, as you said, to heal yourself to your upmost capacity and embrace your flaws and work on them. Eventually, the “healthy” and “easy” women will also be attracted to you, because you are also an “easy” person.

Dragon Reborn Red will certainly help you with your journey, but I would also suggest considering a psychotherapy or something similar to work through your traumas and childhood issues.

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#16

I see people falling into 3 groups.

1.Most people are traumatized and not aware that they are.
2. A smaller number of people are aware that they have trauma and work towards overcoming it.
3. Very few people on the planet have overcome all trauma.

To find girls in the first group look no further than a Tinder Surprise

Group number 3 is a Diamond in the rough/needle in a haystack.

That leaves group 2. Spiritual retreats are a good place for that.

A masculine guy that is on the path of shadow integration is a real catch at a retreat like that.

There’s also festivals like Burning Man and Arcadia in the US that I’ve never been to but would imagine there would be loads of women in the #2 category.

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#17

I am currently also very torn apart if I want a relationship or not. I am unsure if I have healed enough or not.

What I learned about trauma: Its impossible to heal trauma. But its entirely possible to come to a live where the trauma has only minimal grip over you. I am slowly but surely getting there…and as the woman we attract, are perfect mirrors…I will attract woman who worked on themselves allready.
I am starting to see it…my Ex that I came together with a year ago and broke up with in may, was quite heavily traumatized…living in quite toxic relationship…and she didnt even know it…the woman I now get to know allready know their patterns well and have put in years of work just like me.

So I can really recommend you to give yourself some space to do some work…a relationship takes energy…and you could spend all that energy into the relationship to yourself…

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#18

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#20

This is how you should do it.

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