Why does this happen?
When ever I use a status or masculine title, many women tell me I’m very distant. I’m not consciously doing anything to create distance though.
Would love to hear your views.
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you know… on one hand… it could be a feature
/strokes beard while thinking
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Maybe it’s the perceived high status/untouchability?
It can feel distant.
With W/WB it could be the cold shoulder.
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Possible you’re not comfortable with the status building and unconsciously withholding from the women?
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My guess would be it´s you subconsciously increasing boundaries/independence which reduces receptivity for external emotional/mental influence which is perceived by others as being “distant”.
You and your energy become more immovable.
It happens on alpha subs bc they help you connect to your masculinity/internal power. Masculine energy is about freedom / independence, feminine energy longs for attachment / community.
(ofc oversimplified, also everybody has both energys.)
I was very surprised how much/often peoples behaviour torwards me changed during running healing subs, so if you don´t mind being perceived as “distant”, I´d just persist in it and see where it goes.
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LBFH is doing the opposite for me.
I was intentionally distancing myself from people so that i can focus more on my goals. And I’m still doing that to an extent.
But LBFH makes sure that i have a room for people. It makes me more open and approachable. The manifestation from the sub is guaranteeing that this happens.
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Listen to Wanted 
Let them chase you 
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Wanted/ wb could make you distant without proper communication but wb makes you cocky and funny if one can pair it with deep meaningfull communication this should be no prob
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Or stacking it with a social sub
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And what are the alternatives to consciously doing something?
Yup…
Subconsciously or unconsciously doing something.
Also,
There’s a bit of a clue in your original post:
You haven’t, in your post, actually mentioned anything about how you feel about this issue; positive, negative, or otherwise.
Which creates……
You guessed it….
Distance.
None of this has to necessarily be a problem.
But it’s an opportunity for you to clarify what you want.
Intimacy, simply, is based on knowing what someone is experiencing and feeling. There’s a little bit more to it (comfort levels, etc.,), but, really, that’s pretty much it.
So, ask yourself: how much do you really want them to know what you’re feeling and experiencing?
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Would you prefer being called needy?
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This is just their perception.
The distance referred to here is emotional distance. They’re talking about how your behavior seems to them. To them, it looks like you’re not part of the conversation. Maybe they’re thinking you’re not paying close attention either to them or to what they’re saying.
But actually you’re paying passive attention, rather than active attention.
This is my old self until I became mindful of what I’m doing, thanks to Khan.
What I usually do is to snap on it and then make eye contact to one of the ‘audience’ or a simple smile will do. I make sure I react in a way they notice.
This is what Khan fix me on being distant, since I am not used to talking with some random people.
I develop a natural way of opening a conversation suited to specific individual.
Imagine mix Khan with Wanted Black.
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High status and masculine individuals can end up being distant due to more work requirements and placing more emphasis on not wasting time needlessly. This leads to people (and women) feeling like they cannot call on you at any time. Even if you are present, your attention isn’t focused on them.
It has its benefits since you will end up being the prize that is chased. Women love chasing what they can’t have since these days too many men are too available.
You could balance it out with the occasional nod or “uh huh” when you are listening to your dates or people in general. There are various ways to communicate closeness with yours speech, eyes and body language.
But if you like the fact that you are distant, you can embrace it.
Could you give examples of titles that make women tell you that you feel distant?
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GLM
ASCENSION
Emperor
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Oh that explains a lot. Especially Emperor due to its lone wolf style doing things. Godlike Masculinity has that stoicism element to it that makes you not share your feelings as much. And Ascension is the typical alpha male subliminal.
Not a bad result that they say you are distant in my opinion. But you can always change that with something like Love Bomb for Humanity or a social subliminal like True Social that helps you connect.
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It’s not like I’m so busy to cumminicate or such.
I’m communicating as normal buy there is some psychological distance or something in the aura
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Do you like the affect it has?
Yes it’s a celebrity vibe that’s very high status.
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Excellent! Enjoy it!
And yes it is highly probable there is an Auric component to it. Good point.
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Depends on what I’m using and specially if I’m in recon. When I’m on Emperor, this happens a bit. Kind of too frank too at times.
Being sort of distant happens to me on OG Wanted as well, only because I find myself more reserved. I just don’t bother to talk as much.
HoM is great for my relationships, and so is Chosen.
I’m very early on SB and somehow I noticed some boost.
I’m not too happy with how my personal life was going these past few months, and somehow early in this cycle, I’m seeing some improvement. It’s like a connection is getting some spark.
Even though I was very busy today, I’m finding my sense of humor is more pronounced and this levity increases the connection and the enjoyment of the company.
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