Could you explain this.
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If someone perceives you as high status and herself as low status, is insecure or maybe shy, you might feel “out of reach” for her. (IMO “distant” can mean a lot of different things here.)
This could be compounded, if you are confident and e. g. don’t feel the need to fill every moment of silence with chatting, while she maybe does.
But a perceived distance also makes any emotional approach by you more valuable/powerful.
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I don’t have a problem with it. I’m just seeking different perspectives.
I won’t want to adjust my vibe so that it’s good to someone else. Suppose they are weak and insecure and loved me when I was weak, now I’m showing power and they are trying to get me down?
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Why did you come to that conclusion ?
This is just my perspective.
These subs, before you get to your goals, operate through existing beliefs. When it comes to status or masculinity sometimes the template or concept for it is just really simplistic or based in past hurt or insecurities. It needs to grow. But during that growing process it might involve being more vulnerable. Distance is a way to create safety. It’s like a midway point, you know there’s stuff you should be growing into more but a part of you pulls back from it. All that going on underneath below conscious awareness and manifests outwardly to others.
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That’s definitely a good point.
The question is: when you wish to do so and when it is appropriate, are you capable of communicating about what you’re experiencing and feeling?
If so, then I think you’re good.
You don’t have to do it. But it’s good to be able to do it when it’s what you want.
Other than that, it’s up to your choice and your judgment, who you want to let in and who to keep at a distance.
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Are you already engage in romantic interactions with this women?
Maybe you are moving away from their friend-zone area and that makes them confused.
Also might be that you go through some internal healing/processing that makes you detached, if you are naturally sociable that might make it seem like less so.
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Which program is SB?
Stark Black
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Congrats.
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Welcome back!
Cheers.
Nice to see you and some of the others actually get somewhere, keep it up.
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