This thread is fascinating, and I didn’t realize it before, but I’ve got similar questions.
My full name (first, middle, last) is only ever used when filling out government forms (ugh), or when I was in trouble as a kid.
Even now, my first name (which I shortened long ago… ie Daniel to Dan, though that’s not my name) has dual connotations. In business, it’s normal to hear my name and it has no negative connotations at all. However, coming from my wife… she only calls me my actual name when I’m in trouble, otherwise I’m sweetie, honey, babe, etc.
I’ve been thinking about it, and I don’t know which version of my name I’d use. There’s pros and cons for each (full vs shortened that I’ve used for nearly 30 years). My name is quite common, and it’s even shared with a celebrity. So much so that I’ve heard it mentioned on tv shows many times and it barely even perks my ears up anymore. Is it possible I don’t identify strongly enough with my own name?
Side note: I also have zero feelings of connection to my middle name… no sense of familiarity whatsoever. Obviously I know it’s my middle name, and I know the uncle I’m named after, but there’s no reaction of “hey, that’s my name!” when I hear it. I have more of a familiarity reaction when someone external mentions the name of my city, which suggests that I have a stronger identity as a resident of a particular place than to part of my own name.