Khan
Wanted
Heartsong
I need to make a custom, not ditching any of these for the foreseeable future. This stack is heaven sent for me.
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congratulations for your success
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Mogul, Eog ?
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Most likely one of them. Mogul might be a good start
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Also weird observation:
Since beginning Heartsong, things are going really well with my girl. But I sometimes notice intrusive thoughts pop up when I’m with her.
Specifically about being abandoned at random. It’s like I have this irrational fear that she’s going to wake up one day and no longer like me. So sometimes this voice will pop up in my head and say things like “What if this is your last kiss? What if this is the last time you ever see her?”
Even small things, like I was sleeping with her last night, I couldn’t sleep and I wanted to go another round. So I was touching her and she said “What’s wrong?” “Stop, I’m trying to sleep.” “I think you’re obsessive.”
And I was like what? Obsessive? Because I love you, your beautiful body and I’m horny that means I’m obsessive? As in clingy? I get that being needy is unattractive but now Im having intrusive thoughts that because I was touching her so much that now she thinks I’m clingy and that’s unattractive therefore she must not like me anymore.
Just straight up catastrophizing the smallest things.
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- Heal your previous romantic trauma and let yourself love fully. Break the limits you place on yourself due to what happened in the past.
This is one of the objectives of Heartsong. Maybe this is what you’re experiencing.
Heartsong has a healing part to this. Perhaps this is part of the healing.
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This. I think it is obvious.
Can you review your use of Heartsong? Why did you use it and how it helped you?
Great, happy for you! Sounds like a fantastic sub.
I ran the elixir some months ago and it made me relax and think about stuff but not in a depressing/angry way, i loved it and will get back to it but for now no empty slot 
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I was thinking about your new gf implying you were acting “needy”. I wonder if it has more to do that she dislikes being woken in the night rather than something about you.
Also have you ever read about attachment styles? Secure, avoidant, anxious, or disorganized styles?
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Yeah we talked about it, that’s what it was
I have briefly, I’ll check it out again thanks 
So I discovered I’m Fearful Avoidant attachment style:
Summary
“Fearful-avoidant attachment is often caused by childhood in which at least one parent or caregiver exhibits frightening behavior. This frightening behavior can range from overt abuse to more subtle signs of anxiety or uncertainty, but the result is the same.”
“People who carry this fearful-avoidant attachment into adulthood will exhibit the same impulse to approach and then withdraw in their interpersonal relationships with friends, spouses, partners, colleagues, and children.”
“People with fearful avoidant attachment want to form strong interpersonal bonds but also want to protect themselves from rejection. This leads them to seek out relationships but avoid true commitment or to leave as soon as a relationship gets too intimate.”
“The belief that others will hurt them and that they can’t measure up in a relationship lead those with a fearful-avoidant attachment to have a range of issues.”
All of this is accurate, I seek deep connection but find it hard to be vulnerable. I do worry about abandonment, disloyalty, being hurt etc. My relationship has been great though, I am being more vulnerable with her than any of my previous partners, and our connection is much deeper and stronger than anything I’ve ever experienced. So I think Heartsong is really working it’s magic here.
I guess all I need to do is focus on being present with her, being vulnerable, not projecting my insecurities onto her, making my boundaries known etc.
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Oh yeah, I ran a 30 sec micro loop of SMX last night before seeing her.
I rocked her world, lasted long, went multiple times, learned more about her body and what she likes.
Only thing I’ve noticed is something I lose my erection stength. Like it goes semi hard, and then I need to focus on getting it back to 100%.
Idk if it’s because of condoms, performance anxiety, years of watching porn & or death grip/stroke. I’ve stopped watching porn and am now thinking that perhaps the sheer aggression and strong grip I used has made me desensitized.
Another thing, sometimes I can’t finish. It’s like I need to damn near break her just to get close. And sometimes I’m so sensitive that I finish after only 5 minutes. Weird
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Right on, mate!
Now wait… how will you know if you are projecting your insecurities or if you are accurately assessing something that you might need/want to protect yourself from?
Another option is to pull out, and start massaging that G-spot.
As for the porn and death grip… have you seen Gary Wilson’s video(s) “Your Brain on Porn”?
I think one of the main points is stop looking at porn. He also mentioned that (I think this is accurate), that he thought it was more of the “searching and seeking” behavior (such as looking for “just the right scene”) as one of the main problems.
The death grip issue might be similar to vibrator use. Vibrators can desensitize women to the point they might have difficulty orgasming with hands or mouth only. For such women, just stop using the vibrator I’ve heard helps. So perhaps if you stop masturbating for a while, and no more porn, maybe that would help.
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If they come up as irrational thoughts or feelings. Like say one morning she didn’t send me a good morning text, and I think “Oh she’s losing interest, Is she mad at me?”
Even though I can’t think of anything I did wrong, everything could be going perfectly and I will still have these irrational thoughts.
Yes as in a dopamine addiction, fry’s the receptors which makes it harder to get and stay aroused by real life scenarios.
Accurate, will try this. 
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NSFW POST:
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Sex with my girlfriend is good but not great. I’m making her cum and all that but I’ve noticed I go soft a lot. Especially when I’m in missionary or doggy… and she tends to randomly go dry too. Like I can start off strong but then I quickly go a bit soft inside her. To the point where if it slips out I can’t put it back in cause it’s not hard enough.
Strangely enough I stay super hard when she’s on top (and she gets wetter than the ocean) But even going down on her. I go soft. Only thing that gets me back is when I make out with her or she gets on top and I grip that sexy culo.
I can keep going and going and have to damn near break her back and her bed just to get close to finishing. I often get so tired that I stop before I get close. My adrenaline starts pumping like mad too, maybe I’m desensitized from years of porn and death grip. And maybe I’m hitting it so hard that my adrenaline starts to redirect blood flow away from my genitals???
Like I can get hard by myself, I can maintain strong erections by myself. So idk, maybe it is from years of PMO. My girl is sexy as hell so idk why I’m not more aroused. Could also be performance anxiety who knows.
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All that to say I wanna start using BDLM. I’ve been getting back into PE and I’m now using an all day stretcher, bath mate and zen hangar. All of these are proven to increase length and girth. So perhaps me getting back into this is pre results.
Also my girl is going home to Chile for 3 weeks so maybe I can give Khan st4 a break for 3 weeks and use BDLM, that way when she gets back she can be like “OMGGG WAS IT ALWAYS THIS BIG 
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Also maybe I will test wanted black, why not lol. I owe it to myself to at least experience it.
I trust my love, loyalty and dedication to her is strong enough to avoid temptations. (Plus, I get off on rejecting hot chicks lol, it’s the ultimate self esteem boost plus someone needs to be the antithesis to all these thirsty simps nowadays haha 
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Hold up, with me being the total lover boy that I am… I think I’m gonna try Divine Diamond.
Somehow, I think I would enjoy this much more than Wanted black, then again I can test that when she’s on her trip.
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