What does it mean if you are talking to someone and the throat area feels constructed or tight and your volume is lower than usual?
Asking for a friend 
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Assuming thatās not the obvious one where they have a hand around your friendās throat and are squeezingā¦.Iām guessing your friend would have noticed that one. 
Some blockages popping upā¦the body stores a lot and remembers a lot. Could be the weather, the air pressure, or a smell, or anything, really. Letās say itās a smell that brings something up - neednāt have anything at all to do with the current situation, except smelling similar to something that triggers a difficult in-body memory.
It could of course also be a direct emotional reaction, but then your friend would hopefully be aware of that.
I would not assign any meaning just because of that kind of reaction by itself unless you have another reason to assume itās related to the situation. (In which case your friend can probably name the reason, too.)
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Ok. More to add (from my friend of course)
What if itās paired with a feeling of timidity or walking in eggshells? Afeared of of upsetting the person?
Again, impossible to tell just by description. Old things stored can trigger compley stuff, too. What would be really useful is to try to watch how it arises, and if thereās some connection to what is going on.
Say, if Iām getting afraid (everything you described matches that) it would be really useful to be very present, and aware of if this has anything to do with the present situation or if it seems unconnected. Itās the only real way to distinguish it but it may take practice.
Second best is to think about it afterwards and replay it. Itās very difficult to figure out it an old block or memory is triggering a reaction. You either need to be very present, or alternatively, a replay of the interaction might work, while mentally observing it. That could also allow you to see if thereās something in the interaction triggering it, or if it just pops up.
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Iāve had this exact thing. I know what heās referring to from personal experience but I donāt know how much I can share on it apart from what it was like for me. The tightness in throat, combined with a general feeling of lack of social confidence. Yeah. And it comes up at specific instances, itās not an all the time thing, itās something that happens in specific scenarios.
What kind of information is your friend looking for?
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Just ideas what it is and how to move past it. If itās just a lack of social ability, Iād recommend True Social.
But since it only seems to happen with one person, I assume itās not just lack of social grace.
Does this āone personā happen to be a pretty person āyour friendā is attracted to? 
Itās actually his wife lol. Hence why I doubt itās just social skill. Heartsong might be in order
Heās just become aware of this after a few loops of S&SX
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Okay. Lots of classics.
First of all, throat clenching up in this scenario is often a lack of power and freedom in saying what needs to be said. Throat is clenching to literally restrict viable speech options to maintain safety.
Second of all CLASSIC CLASSIC CLASSIC RECON symptom.
āSex and Seduction helped me realize that I have this block coming up with my wife. Now let me switch subs to fix it.ā
S&SX is healing that on itās own. How do you know? Because S&SX is bringing awareness to it.
Stick with S&S for a few cycles and watch the way this resolves itself on itās own. Donāt worry about other subs.
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Itās in the custom heās about to build to run for a while.
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No. I meant stack HS in to help work on whatever is going on with him and his relationshit
In my experience, Heartsong does cause āproductiveā fights that move through things. But theyāre explosive.
My relationship gets infinitely better when my partner runs Chosen. It could probably help to run Chosen, either him or her. I donāt run Chosen personally so I donāt know how that would work.
Heartsong has a bit of healing but it mainly has manifestation I find it almost makes me realize the traits that I wish my partner had rather than help melove my partner deeper.
Chosen From Within might be the fastest path - being the man in a relationship is being a leader. Healing those blockages sounds like the goal.
Orā¦ I only just thought of this nowā¦ how much of it comes from a perception that she doesnāt see him as valuable? doesnāt regard him as positively as heād like? Iād be tense around people too if i was on edge waiting for criticism/judgement.
Maybe something as simple as Love Bomb could do the trick. Create an aura that causes more positivity to be pointed in his direciton.
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Iām not sure but that might just be shyness, smile 
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I had this with more than one person, several subs helped. Chosen had the biggest effect. Not realizing for a few days helps a lot too. Oh, that and extensive vocal training of all the nuances involved in speech. If you want a very quick fix, google āstraw phonation.ā
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Ok. Ok. Itās me
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That took courage Palpatine. Youāve got guts.
Iāve had that a lot in my life. Ć was afraid of being rejected, and my throat would clench, like a bodily reaction so Iād not speak my truth.
Even here, while writing, I sense it. I wasnāt expecting that.
But Iāve been trying hard to be honest, and not fake. It scares the F out of me.
The root is a trauma. If I wasnāt on DR presently, Iād be using Regeneration with some alpha sub since it directly deals with trauma.
Again, respect for your honesty.
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Itās probably why Heartsong always seems to hit me harder than any other title so far. and why Iāve yet to do a solid run of it.
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I remember Saint saying Heartstrong has a lot of healing in it. Some were struggling with it, and he shared that.
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Iām just more baffled/surprised than anything at noticing that. Like, thatās probably been there for a while but itās never fully registered.
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Pretty cool S&S brought that to awareness. Probably gonna be a lot more where that came from too. When seemingly minor things like that donāt register for me I know Iāve partially dissociated from it and itās like a spiderweb of interrelated stuff that is going to also present itself.
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