The fear of polarization

Questions and Comments
#1

How do you overcome the fear of putting yourself out there? How do you develop that grit to deal with the naysayers on Social Media - how do you handle fame? ASBR has helped me face the fear to some extent and I have made some good progress in the initial steps. However, how do you go out there and stand on your two feet - rock solid - hone your story, your positioning and everything out there?

Maybe Khan / The Commander? The more I’ve run subs for external results (which have manifested well), the more I begin to realise and understand just how important that you feel in your own skin filled with conviction. So I want to shift, any suggestions?

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#2

Khan was something of that effect for me. But also…. You don’t really need to put all your opinions out there. Not because you’re scared but because it’s just strategically not a wise thing to do unless you want to become famous for being controversial which isn’t really a sexy idea to me at least. Khan is great though if you’re scared of being seen as an asshole. You will be and with time you’ll realize it doesn’t even matter. Your value to the world does.

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#3

@AnswerGroup @RVconsultant @Lion @Malkuth @friday

I’ve observed a pattern where I go inside. In the sense, my focus shifts inwards when on stage or when I am speaking. I somewhat get conscious of what I’m saying and it brings my delivery to a screeching halt.

This is the context with which I’ve asked the question. How do I become extroverted and fearless. I am to an extent, but not to the level I’d like and what it takes for being a professional speaker, etc…

If any of you have a suggestion, It’d be much appreciated! Subs have cleared everything, but this remains as I’m realising entirely today.

Maybe it’s happening because I have been at home for a long time etc… and it’s just about going out. But I do feel that it has to do with something from childhood / growing up. Whatever the solution, I’m willing to do it. Even if it means picking odd sales jobs.

Thanks, guys!

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#4

Sure I have a suggestion. Though, who knows, you may be advanced enough to be the one giving us suggestions.

But anyway, it’s just a conversation, so here goes:

Just do more of it.

There is nothing in this Cosmos that does not change and evolve if you keep doing it. And nothing to which your relationship and attitudes do not change with continued exposure, interaction, and relationship.

In other words, your feelings of comfort, overwhelm, etc., will change if you don’t worry too much about them and just keep doing what is important to you.

Adding a healthy dose of self-compassion and genuine enthusiastic appreciation for what you are tends to speed up the process, since it promotes curiosity and relaxation. (Both of which lubricate evolution.)

Anyway, that’s my take. Let’s start it off simple.

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#5

You’re always with your to the point answers - even if it doesn’t seem “to the point” on the first read. I cannot emphasise just how important what you have highlighted is. It is the way.

I ran E:E, and I’m just on it. Just going at it. And I don’t even feel the “going in”, until I stop and analyse. I believe it also has to do with Mastery - that I am on the path to it, takes time, and until I attain that level, there is a sort of dissonance in my mind between unconscious flow and conscious awareness.

I will try out The Commander tho. Something about that unabashed energy - I feel would work.

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#6

Wanted + Limitless.

Wanted for the IDGAF attitude and Limitless for intelligent debating skills.

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#7

If I’m not wrong, you had created a Tony Robbins custom idea. What do you think about that custom? I believe it had Chosen, Commander & True Sell.

#8

Wanted is cool. But for teaching / training / speaking to 500+ that IDGAF attitude, plus passivity doesn’t really work (at least that’s what I believe). I believe that because then you are no longer a commander who can hold their attention for 10+ hours at a stretch. I’m talking about the most highly persuasive type of teaching and communication. The kind where you listen once and they just can’t forget. Like burnt in mind.

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#9

Ah okay. In that case, Daredevil will be excellent in place of Wanted.

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#10

There’s some disagreement with your statement — you mentioned that ASBR helped you face your fears, but then questioned how to stand on your own. That seems contradictory.

In my own experience, when I made the decision to step outside my comfort zone, it felt uncomfortable. I felt the urge to retreat to where I started, but I kept pushing forward.

Like others have shared, I also misused the subliminal guides at first — looping them excessively, hoping for faster results. As expected, it only led to frustration. Eventually, I paused, took a step back, and that’s when I actually started noticing meaningful changes.

The titles definitely helped, but I never intended to become attached to them. My focus was always on the results I wanted. So I kept observing and recalling those changes in my mind.

We should never force ourselves to be someone we’re not — doing so only delays our natural growth.

Ultimately, many people don’t get the results they want simply because they never took real action in the first place.

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#11

Okay, so when I mentioned stand on my own - I mean stand my ground. My bad that I articulated it inaccurately.

For example, I strongly believe that there is no right / wrong. It is a matter of perspective.

Now, I am bound to face a ton of disagreements on this, when I communicate this core belief to an audience. Why? Because most people strongly believe that something is either right or wrong.

Now, I must hold my frame and not give in to their frame. Why would I possibly give in to their frame? I believe that happens because I can “relate”, however as a professional speaker, the audience has to relate to my content, not the other way round.

Which means having conviction in my communication is the way. So essentially, to stand my ground till the audience is persuaded.

What do I mean by stand my ground? There are belief shifting processes, you create pain, you show them the valley, the dark night of the soul, and then the gain, and the belief that bridges it. Afterall, every fight on earth is based off just who is “right” and who is “wrong”. And that arises from one’s own belief system. Essentially, everything is just a war of beliefs (you can think about it).

So, this - holding the conviction in your own message and commanding an entire room into your pocket for their own growth / benefit. Again, Tony Robbins as an example.

#12

Unshakeable conviction comes from knowing yourself deeply, knowing your truth, nothing can shake that, doesn’t matter what words or concepts you use to express it to a crowd, when you stand in your truth your very presence exudes what you stand for and everything you do or say is an expression of that.

The only way to stand strong is to know who you are in your roots, to know your truth at a deeper level.

If you’re asking how to stand your ground it means you haven’t discovered your own roots yet, so maybe what you are trying to share with others needs to be deepened.

If it’s a set of beliefs that is expressing directly what you know deeply, nothing can be argued, you’ll have the infinite support of your own truth to back up whatever comes, but if you get shaken up it’s worth investing in reflection and look more deeply within yourself before preaching out loud to crowds trying to ‘help’ them.