Two nights ago, I slept very badly and woke up several times. The last time I woke up, I had a profound revelation: I realized I’m a big coward
and do everything to avoid emotional pain and decisions with uncertain outcomes (out of fear). It was a very hidden thing; I hadn’t realized it before. In fact, the opposite was true – I always thought of myself as a bold person (perhaps this is a form of cognitive dissonance).
I’m grateful for this insight because it means I can change it. (Is this related to Khan Black?)
I also became aware that I’m not taking responsibility for myself as much as I should. I should take responsibility for my desires and my life, take action steps towards them, and not be afraid to live them out. There are no valid excuses like “I’m not that kind of person” or waiting for external factors to force me to act. I have to take responsibility for it.
I’ve always had a hard time defining my vision for my life or setting goals, perhaps due to fear. I have to accept that it’s okay to have small goals and a changing vision. I always thought these had to be big and defining. (Is this also related to Khan Black?)
Blooming of Emperor? Yesterday, I became aware of another thing: the state of my internal status, which is related to the two points above. Emperor, together with Phoenix and LBFH, changed my self-image from a mostly depressed and worthless “beta” to someone aware of his own worth. Yesterday, I found some fantastic female DJs on YouTube who were not only talented, but also look like supermodels. This got me thinking about the kind of man you have to be, to be attractive to such a woman (talented, self-confident, beautiful, and aware of their beauty). I realized I still have a lot of inner work to do to develop a frame and a spirit that isn’t afraid, but rather feels deserving of such a woman. As I say this, I have already a very good-looking and strong woman, and are not looking further, it is more the awareness that this thought brought to my inner frame, that is startling to me and shows such a profound change in myself.