May 30, 2022 (cont.)
I’m in the middle of a whine. A sad whine, unsure of why.
I said goodbye to my daughter today. Got a peaceful ride home with the ex-inlaws. I actually feared coming home since…
Since I come here and push everyone who cares away. That’s why I had no heartfelt desire to enter my lonely room. I felt like a contributor in a big house there. It fed me. Here, a selfish me has often led me around.
Damn.
I was just on @Geoff’s thread, and me writing back connected with me giving to someone again. What’s happening? My default’s changing. I don’t know what to do anymore (no old “safe” default reactions–safe meaning cold)
And “mad” (an old safe response) doesn’t work. I’m sad, and wanting to cry it out. I’ve watched sappy YT videos for the last hour, trying to bring stuff out.
I’m sad…since I’m not in control and honestly wish to let go of stuff.
Maybe Stage 2 is working and I’m just unfamiliar with it. Maybe it’s actually feeling and crying when needed around my daughter. Maybe–no, not maybe–it was me telling my ex’s husband in many different ways that I respect that he’s her husband. She’s not mine anymore. I respected him. I didn’t hide behind the front of anger. I wanted to let go of it. Of my anger. I wanted to stop giving myself pain via anger. I let go. Still letting go.
Damn fireworks go off after one loop. Yesterday morning. It’s 9PM in the evening, a day later. Wow.