A couple of days ago, I had a dream about a girl (not anyone I knew, she looked like a combination of my ex, a girl I currently work with, and Selena Gomez) that went from a falling-in-love adventure, to a sex dream, to one of deep sadness and loneliness.
Today, I have a dream about a girl from my past who I lost contact with - she came to stay at my house, for some reason my father was there and tried to abuse her and I but I protected her and fought my father. Then she stayed with me and it was fun, the time we spent together reminded me of the time we used to spend together when we were in school. One thing led to another and we began to kiss, and then I suddenly became hyper-aware of the fact that this was a dream, and then I woke up.
This is a girl from my past who has only come into my thoughts twice in the past 2 years, through 2 different dreams - the first was in a dream when I was running CFW, where she was frustrated with me because I “betrayed” her. She’s probably the person who I regret losing contact with the most during my depression/The Great Purge of my personal life.
Now she appears again in my life, this time through what I assume is the work of Daredevil. I wanted a social focused sub and I’m getting a romance sub instead.
As much as a part of me wants to avoid a relationship for the time being while I focus on my self and my own development, the other half of me craves a partner and feels quite lonely.
In my entire adult life, the longest period I went without being with someone was about 10 months and those 10 months were filled with growth, upheaval, change.
Right now we’re approaching 6 months and I have experienced a lot of growth once again in those 6 months. I develop so much more as a person when I’m alone, and I hold myself back when I am with someone. This makes me fear the idea of being in a relationship, but at the same time I feel lonely and I miss being with a woman.
Casual sex is out of the question because it goes against my moral and religious values, and kinda feels gross to me; I briefly partook in it when I was 19, and it never felt good.
My only option is a relationship, and a worthwhile one. But I need to find the right person, one where I can be comfortable continuing my growth and development.
The biological male impulse to reproduce frustrates me. It just feels like a distraction from my current short-term goals, and a waste of time that could be better spent on my actual career and intellect goals like developing my computer skills by learning more coding, learning about pentesting or my personal intellect goals, like learning more languages (Arabic and Spanish mostly - I know a bit but I want to actually get good at both, to the point where I can have a conversation with someone).
Man, I literally made a plan for the next 7 months yesterday. One dream later and my bitch-ass wants to run Heartsong smfh