The way I approach subliminals is the way I would approach a mentor. If you were mentoring someone, you wouldn’t want someone who is just complaining, saying it’s not working and that it is impossible. You would want someone who is open and willing to try things, and also someone who in times of struggle opens up about it, and shows that vulnerability and self-honesty.
In this case I would argue that the subliminals itself is the mentor. And people here on this forum are it’s testimonials, it’s all there to read. The producers of the subliminals have a metric ton of data through research to what is the recommended use of it’s products. So back to the mentor analogy, if the mentor says do this, and you do something completely different, how can you expect to get the desired results?
But then again, they always encourage you to experiment. But why start there, and not start with the recommendations?
You actually become a new person when you change, still the same observer though(but that is way on the spiritual side of it). So thinking that you can become the “new you” that you are after by being the “same you” that you are now, won’t work. Your thoughts that you have now are the thoughts that brought you this reality, and having the same thoughts won’t make a new reality, just more of the same. That’s where subliminals can help, but that will screw with your current beliefs, making your mind feel unsafe and it will try to resist it.
Classic reconciliation, we have all been there. It makes you think it doesn’t work, you will think about changing to a new one, you will feel tired, upset, hopeless etc… (Forum again here is great for this, read other’s experiences and become more aware of your own.)
Subliminals rely on consistency and time, but we want it now, don’t we? For me a big one with subliminals was admitting that I actually needed a lot of healing. Even though I get lost in just wanting the positive “cool” traits of the subliminals, realize that it will be far less effective and create far more reconciliation for you if you skip healing.
It’s like you purge things to come to the surface, and then let them go, one by one. When you become aware of this process and learn it, it actually becomes fun to heal, even though you have periods of emotional turmoil. (Journaling is a great tool to become aware of this.)
Back when I started working on myself 9 years ago I realized something very big. Whatever is happening to me, I am a part of it, there’s no hiding from it. If I meet angry people or rude people all the time, I must ask myself the question; why am I attracting all these angry people into my life? The answer will almost always be that you have a lot of suppressed anger inside.
It starts with actually becoming aware of this behavior, that you are actually getting something out of feeling victimized, your mind gets energized from these lower emotions. And that’s okay, but wouldn’t you rather like your inner world to be run by feelings of love, acceptance and peace instead?
Hey just look at today’s world and news, people actually get in line to tell the world how badly they were treated or how sorry people should feel for them. Putting the blame out there is a recipe for suffering.
So I made a commitment to myself back then, that no matter what, I will take 100% responsibility for whatever happens in my life. Does that mean that I just let people walk all over me? No! But I stop blaming the world for what I am a part of, and then learn and grow from my experiences. It’s not our faults for whatever happened and traumatized us as we grew up, but it is our responsibility now to grow and heal from it.
Stop blaming other people, that’s what 98% of the world do, and how is that working out for the world?
Or like Eckhart Tolle so beautifully put it: Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world.
And also, when you heal, you help the world to heal like ripples in a pond. When you become a more loving person you spread that to all people around you. Become the change you would like to see in the world.
It all starts with admitting where you are, like I did 9 years ago(still do), and forgiving yourself. Stop being your worst critic and become your best cheerleader instead. You are a wonderful human being, a work of art, and you are a powerful infinite being.
All the best to you
I believe in you, even if you don’t