Sexual Confidence without External Validation

Questions and Comments
#1

Hey all. Long time lurker, first time poster. Reason I’m posting is for help picking subliminal that will meet my goal of sexual liberation.

by liberation, I mean sexual validation from within, not from looking at women and thinking I’ll be sexually validated if they’re sexually attracted to me.

For context, I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for two years, it’s an amazing relationship, and I have no desire to be with anyone else. I’m 38 and finally found a partner that meets all my needs.

The problem: Before meeting my partner, I dabbled in pickup cold approach and seduction.

I programmed myself for over a decade to feel a big amount of pleasure if I saw a hot girl and approached her, and I programmed myself to feel a big amount of pain if I saw a girl I was attracted to and “let fear stop me” from saying hi

if any of the girls approached me, I would rush to say “I have a girlfriend sorry” and leave it at that.

Yet, that programming still comes up and every time I choose not to talk to a girl I’m attracted to, I feel like I’m failing.

I also spend a lot a lot a lot of time staring at women on the streets especially their butts (so embarrassing)

My relationship to approaching women and checking women out is causing me frustration.

what subliminals will best heal sexual conditioning like these, without also being a subliminal where the goal is to have more sex.

Khan ST1 comes to mind as the ultimate sexual healer, but I’ve worked out that it ultimately makes you more sexual and want sex more. Emperor could be a grounded approach, it has sex scripting but helps you focus on building your empire.

More sex in my relationship is good too of course

Any recommendations?

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#2

Khan Black St1, of course.

WITHOUT, so it’s not Primal for sure.

KB St1 contains all the sexual healing he needs. Possibly going throughout the whole program would be his best bet.

Adding Heartsong could orient all that sexual energy towards his relationship.

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#3

Not sure what you mean by sexual confidence. What you’re describing is more like shyness. Do you have trauma related to sexual performance? Anyway I would say Khan Black or Primal.

But because you said

Primal looks like the better solution. Get you out of your head and free you.

#4

Not sure how it’s shyness? I’m confident and want to walk up to every woman I see and find attractive, which drives me crazy because I also don’t want to, because I’m good in my relationship.

#5

Isn’t this a sub designed to get you out of your head so you can approach? Just to reiterate, I can already approach, and I want to even in situations where I don’t want to

#6

Oh ok i get it now.
Khan Black then.

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#7

Stacked: Primal + Ascension + Godlike Masculinity

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#10

I don’t recommend things I wouldn’t run. I’m not other people.

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#11

Then you really didn’t read what he wrote.

#12

Of course I did.

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#13

Actually this is a pretty good explanation. Especially, I didn’t even consider GLM but it makes a lot of sense.

Still worried about Primal’s fit but Ascension + GLM makes a lot of sense, and Primal is at least logical in gearing it towards relationships.
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#14

@Syntax

Khan Black is your bet for the issues you mentioned. Adding Heartsong would orient your sexual energies towards your relationship but you need to put conscious effort into it as well. If it was too hard to resist the temptation to have other women, perhaps running Ascension alone would be your way. Or just Genesis since the temptation may stem from not being “life-oriented”, not knowing what you really want and what direction to head.

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#15

For all sexual temptations I would highly recommend Khan Black.
I was a porn addict for 20 years. Freed myself by 80-90%. But the right kind of images triggered me. Always. And bam I was back. Relapsed.
Endangered my relationship.

Khan Black Stage 1 needed three cycles and I feel clean and pure now.

No thoughts I have to wrestle with anymore. I can encounter porn ads in the internet. It doesn’t do a thing. I see hot women on the street. I don’t care. A week ago a hot woman started flirting with me. I just casually mentioned how much I love my fiancee, and she was gone.

For any kind of sexual trauma, KB1 is your go to sub.

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#16

@Parsifal @Sub.Zero you both mentioned KBST1 specifically. Not all 4 stages. Is hat just a coincidence? Or is there something unique to ST1 that isn’t present in the other stages

#17

The other stages are about energy cultivation.
A worthwhile endeavor. I’m on stage 3 atm.
But Stage 1 is where healing of traumas is.

Stage 4 contains the other stages as well. So its a stage many keep in their stack for a long time.

But for healing what you suffer from, Stage 1 is all you need.

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#18

Thanks :white_check_mark:

#19

If you are in a romantic relationship, there are programs oriented towards those in relationships. There are also “warnings” in certain product descriptions.

For example if people are wanting to be monogamous, running WB or WANTED might be something to avoid.

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#20

Yet we plan to run wanted and Seductress. But at that point, we wouldn’t mind finding a third wheel occasionally.

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#21

Maybe PN together? :wink:

Y’all both attract partners, but with a little more of a focus on a wild sex life, physical and sexual chemistry, and a little faster acting and more reliable than two titles that both have many manny goals. Food for thought! :slight_smile:

#22

When it gets a focus for us it might be an option.
We consider both titles for physical shifting and many of the other goals. For her, an important point is getting more into her feminine energy.

Right now she will plans to use Seductress in a couple of months after LB. As I plan to use Primal to get in touch with my Primal side.
Or perhaps with customs, LB+Primal and LB+Seductress

Next year, hopefully, we will find three months to mostly focus on our relationship with a stack of Heartsong and Devine Diamond.

Perhaps after that, if we still feel like it, PN. Who knows.

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