Seductress - Menstruation, feelings and emotions

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#3

Thank you for sharing your experience. I can definitely relate to some of the emotions you’re describing. I started listening to Seductress in 2022, and it has helped me become more aware of my emotional and intuitive sides, especially during certain phases of my cycle.

I’ve found that understanding my body’s natural rhythms has helped me navigate these intense feelings. During the luteal phase, for example, I make sure to eat more and take extra rest, as it can be an emotionally charged time. This phase often brings up heightened emotions, so it’s important to give yourself the space to feel and recharge.

It’s also important to remember that both our masculine and feminine energies are meant to coexist, not just one or the other. It’s about finding that balance and honouring each part of us. You may notice that in your follicular or ovulation phase, you might feel more in your masculine energy—more action-oriented, doing, and moving.

You might also want to explore yin practices, like yin yoga, which has been incredibly grounding for me, especially when I’m feeling emotionally overwhelmed. Sometimes doing more intense yang practices can amplify those fiery emotions, but other times, they can be empowering. It’s all about tuning into what your body and mind need in each phase.

The intensity of emotions you’re feeling is a natural part of embracing your power and your feminine energy. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment, and trust that they are guiding you to a deeper understanding of yourself. Honour these feelings and the process of discovering balance between your feminine and masculine energies.

Lastly, I recommend the book Becoming the ONE—it may offer some helpful insights on embracing your feminine power and navigating these complex emotions.

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#4

That actually helped me a lot. My loops were always between 30sec and 1min, but I once dared an expiriment and listened to subs every day. It seems to have been too much of a good thing.

I don’t feel that way about competing with other women, except maybe something with my future mother-in-law. By living under one roof with her, I only ever feel that she wants to claim my fiancé. That doesn’t actually make me a little angry and I actually feel like I have to compete here.

I look at her and see a woman who was like me before. No limits, no attention to oneself, no standing up for oneself, etc. I see in it my old self, which I detest. Well, other things have also happened, why our relationship is not exactly the best, but basically I mean, facing my old self - day after day. I’ve been able to do that since I started working on myself.

I thought for a while that subs were doing me absolutely nothing because I didn’t realize that something was changing in my life. Still broke, still debt, still not where I want to go.

But now I realize that I was absolutely wrong. Subs work, great even. You just don’t always notice it immediately.

Thanks for your reply, it really got me something.

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#5

Seductress has been really rocky for me at times.

I’ve never been confident and very conflict averse. Seductress really pulls that up and is like “hey you can’t go through life like that”. And it’s scary and uncomfortable, but it has to be done.

I think in my case with self growth I always want it to feel good and uplifting or I expect it to be. I very often neglect understanding the in between to getting there. Seductress is a bold sub. It makes sense that in order to embody that I have to work through everything that causes the inverse of that. It can definitely be hard at times.

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#6

Thank you for your reply. That I need rest my body tells me again and again, but I actually manage not to give it this perfect rest. I make sure that I am often alone, but during this time I always distract myself with something when I actually want to meditate, or just want to enjoy the peace and quiet.

I always had to do something with my family. I am the first daughter of three children. I was quickly told that I had to take care of her, that I had to be good at school, that I had to do the chores and that women were capable of multitasking to be able to master everything. Calm? I wasn’t taught. Instead, I was taught that I always have to do something. That’s why I can switch off, among other things, damn badly.

I had already thought about yoga, but since a knee surgery a few years ago, my left knee is really shitty. I have to be damn careful how long I kneel, elongate my leg completely or stand in general, so as not to have more problems with the knee.

I know that there are also knee-friendly exercises, but there is something in me that resists trying it. Could be good…

Do you have any tips on how to pay more attention to and accept these feelings?
I actually don’t know how to do this best…

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#7

Thank you for sharing so openly with me. It sounds like you’ve carried a lot of responsibility for a long time, and I can relate as I’m also the oldest daughter with two younger sisters and a big brother. It’s easy to feel like you need to always be doing something when you’re taught to take care of others and juggle multiple roles. I completely understand how hard it can be to find space for yourself and truly rest.

In terms of your knee, I can see why you’d be cautious. It’s great that you’re already thinking about knee-friendly options. There are gentle yoga practices, like seated or lying poses, that can be easier on the knees and help ease you into the practice without putting strain on your body. Some yin poses that can be particularly helpful for your knees include:

• Seated Butterfly Pose – Sitting with the soles of your feet together and knees gently falling to the sides. You can place cushions or blocks under your knees for extra support.

• Reclined Butterfly Pose – Lying on your back with the soles of your feet together and your knees opening gently to the sides, supported by pillows or blankets.

• Supported Bridge Pose – Lying on your back with your hips lifted and a block or cushion under your sacrum for support.

• Seated Twists – Sitting with your legs extended or crossed and gently twisting your torso, using your hands for support.

• Reclined Twists – Lying on your back with your knees to your chest, then gently lowering them to one side.

• Savasana – Ending your practice with savasana, using cushions or blankets under your knees for comfort and support.

Starting small with these gentle stretches can help your body ease into a mindful, restorative practice without overstraining your knees.

For paying attention to and accepting your feelings, it can help to begin by simply noticing what’s going on in your mind and body, without any judgment or need to fix it. Self-compassion practices, whether through meditation or journaling, can really help with that. It’s okay to not have all the answers right away, and sometimes just being aware of what you’re feeling is enough to make room for healing.

You don’t have to do this alone, and I’m here to support you if you ever want to chat more or need suggestions for gentle practices. Be kind to yourself! :heart:

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#8

I did wanna say that when I stacked Seductress with Stark Black, I got great results. :fire:

Also, Daredevil & The Will to Power.

I am a completely different person today as a result.

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#9

As I read, Seductress is probably a sub that strikes with full strength.

I used to be zero self-confident and conflict-averse I was also extreme. Some people in my life gave me that feeling. Bullying, physical and mental violence have achieved excellent results for me.

This change from “do with me what you want” to " fuck you. so you don’t deal with me" was and is hard. Especially when I meet people who don’t like my newfound strength.

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#10

seductress is healing what needs to be healed. Perhaps it would be good to keep an offline journal on your phone and write there your thoughts before you sleep in bed or whenever you feel overwhelmed. Just to write whatever comes to your mind. You will eventually resolve it. As you are already now. You can also text yourself here on forum in private messages as a journal too. Whatever helps you be consistent. Maybe… even see if you could imagine a version of you and your life that would feel good. Maybe see if you can even imagine a partner who would be in just a way that would make you feel most comfortable and then just assume that seductress is actually leading you to live that kind of life. There are no limits. No compromises. Make that imaginary “ideal” partner as hot, as understanding, as amazing and fun as you want in just the way you want and with the kind of lifestyle and freedom to be you… Have fun honestly. I think that might be sometimes the root of recon. You need to see not only what you dont like but also what you want instead and know its much closer than you might think. You are running subs after all. Also… dont take things too personally. People are dumbasses and thats fine. You are a free individual and you can choose your life. They cant take any of that from you ever unless you give them power over you. Including too much of your energy.

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#11

So good!

#12

This has been my biggest challenge too. Standing up to people who violate boundaries. I have to remind myself I’m not doing anything wrong, they are. But my first reaction is to look and see where I screwed up vs protecting myself.

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#13

I’ll let the women of the forum answer most of these, as they would be better qualified in this regard. Wanted to point out two things:

This can happen, yes. People come in looking to find a solution to a specific problem and are completely zero-ed in on that issue, not seeing that their mind is working on things from a much deeper perspective. For example, wealth - and yet, there are mountains of self-confidence issues, imposter syndrome type beliefs and other limiting beliefs that are necessary to be cleared out to a certain degree, in order to start having the crazy changes that people often report.

And second, will be watching this thread for data. We’re planning an expansion in women-focused products, so any thoughts, features, problems that you face etc., are welcome and will be added to our internal databases for review.

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#14

Thank you. I appreciate that very much.

Also thank you for all the yoga exercises that don’t take up my knee. Now I just have to start :grin:

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#15

Daredevil will be coming to my stack soon. Want to make more videos where I read my poetic lyrics or want to give people advice on how to build their self-worth and self-love. In text form, I’m actually very good. Verbal is often a hint of uncertainty.

I’ll combine that with Ultimate Writer.

In addition, Daredevil should make sure that people like to listen to you. And I want that :grin:.

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#16

Honestly, you’ll have a really great experience with that one!

#17

I’m actually writing an offline journal. Ok, not constantly at the moment, but that saved my ass many times when I thought I was completely lost.

Imagineing the future as you want it is something I’ve heard before, but unfortunately I’ve always forgotten. 🫠.

But I never forget to pass this advice on to others. My subconscious often sabotages me. Could be awesome if you live your dream life 🫣.

#18

its the same as daydreaming to some nice music.

#19

Absolutely :joy:.

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#20

Oh yeah! Those who have little or no self-worth find it very difficult to gain financial wealth. "Rich people are arrogant, money stinks or you don’t need money to be happy is deeply embedded in the subconscious of so many people. Of course, the money has no buck to stay with you let alone show yourself at all.

Sounds good! Then I would like to add that my hair has improved significantly. My curls are softer, more defined and I also mean to believe less frizzy.

In addition, I pay more attention to what products and make-up I use. Now I’m waiting for better skin :sweat_smile:.

But I can actually take responsibility and stop drinking energy drinks and smoking. And currently - at least it is still so when smoking - I have extreme fear of letting it be. You know, too many feelings, thoughts and emotions. But I think that if a little more order comes into my emotional world, that I can let it happen. It is currently an anchor.

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#21

Something happened today that I absolutely have to share. Because I strongly assume that Seductress has shown itself here.

Earlier, my fiancé came into the bedroom. He had ready meals with Udon and Ramen. I was surprised that he also took something with him, because actually he wanted to cook for his family downstairs and eat with them. It turned out that he was once again blamed for why the food was not ready, because his uncle had to leave immediately. And besides, they always eat dinner at the same time.

Fun Fact: No, dinner is no longer always around the set time.

I then asked my fiancé if he had said anything to his family because of their unspoken expectations. He didn’t.

I just meant that I’m going to do it now. Here I note that I have always swallowed everything down if something bothers me here. But today wasn’t after me.

So I got down into the kitchen and at first asked a little louder how it can be why my fiancé is being approached for non-communicated expectations. His uncle just said that he didn’t have that and his mother, my fiancé’s grandma, asked why the food wasn’t ready when he had to leave.

I just meant then that he was willing to cook food, but if no one clearly communicates who needs to go where and when the food should be ready, it’s not my fiancé’s fault.

Then I got to the point where I first addressed that communication here is really shit. Meanwhile my voice had calmed down and I spoke in a normal tone.

Unusual, because when I’m angry, then I’m constantly loud and often (unfortunately) hurtful.

But not today. My voice was shaking because I was just jumping over my shadow, but I had to pull this off right now. For me and my well-being.

Back to the speech. I said that there is an urgent need to change in communication. All the passively aggressive remarks, all that being loud while talking to each other must stop. Otherwise, we keep stepping on our feet.

At the last sentence, his grandma got a little louder and asked where she was stepping on her feet. I just said, “All of us.”

Well, now she’s a little mad at me. On the one hand it doesn’t matter, on the other hand it doesn’t matter. I guess I triggered something in her.

I will try to talk to her later. Because something that was allowed to be true is, if a person is just too much in his triggered emotion, it is better to go first and cool down the whole thing.

Next, I talked to his mother. She had a dialysis day today and was a bit weakened, but I couldn’t and didn’t want to be considerate of that today.

In addition, she also muzzled my fiancé, so I had to talk to her about why everything here is already escalating again.

Thank God she is now more reflective and understands what burdened me and still burdens me. At first she wanted to swipe me off, but I didn’t allow that.

I told her the same as above. She then poured out her heart to me and said that she also suffers from it. On some other points she was a bit distant, but that was ok for me at that moment.

You must know, a few months ago I would have swallowed everything down and exploded sometime weeks later. I also like to avoid such conversations. Because you could beat me, bully me, or anything else. At least it was in the past.

But not today. Today I immediately said what bothers me and that all of us, myself included, should communicate better here in the house, otherwise everyone will go their separate ways at some point.

I’m really proud of myself and my speech.

Seductress is really a damn good sub and helps me grow tremendously.

A success has never been more noticeable than it is today.

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The Alchemie of the Soul
#22

Food for thought: