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Journals - Major Programs
#81
Listening Schedule

Legacy of the Spartan
Tuesday | 15 min
Wanted Black
Thursday | 15 min
Diamond
Where FUN is available
Fun Day| 15 min

▷ 21 days | 7 days break

“What do you want to attract? Love, money, happiness?”

It seems like a straightforward choice: pick what you want and work toward it. But the question contains implicit assumptions:

  • That attraction is possible — i.e., that you can “draw” experiences or outcomes toward you through intention, focus, or energy.
  • That external conditions (love from others, money, or happiness) are separate from your inner state.
  • That these outcomes are discrete and mutually exclusive, when in reality they are deeply interconnected.

Understanding it deeply requires questioning these assumptions.

2. Look at the Nature of What You’re Attracting

  • Love: Are you seeking romantic love, familial love, self-love, or a general feeling of connection? Love is not just “given to you” — it emerges in relationships, mutual respect, and emotional availability.
  • Money: Do you want wealth as a measure of security, freedom, power, or validation? Money is a tool; how you relate to it reveals your values and fears.
  • Happiness: Are you looking for pleasure, contentment, or a deeper sense of meaning? Happiness is not always a direct result of circumstances; it’s often a byproduct of alignment between your actions, values, and relationships.

The deepest insight here: what you attract is a reflection of your inner state, not just an external goal.

3. Understand the Interconnection

Love, money, and happiness are often seen as separate goals, but they are fundamentally interconnected:

  • Love and connection can enhance happiness.
  • Financial stability can reduce stress and provide freedom to pursue passions.
  • Happiness and gratitude often amplify your capacity to build meaningful relationships and attract abundance.

Focusing exclusively on one without cultivating the others may leave you unfulfilled.

4. Ask the Deeper Question

Instead of asking “What do I want to attract?” ask:

  • “Who do I need to become to naturally attract love, money, and happiness?”
  • “What inner qualities, habits, or mindset will create the conditions for these to arise?”

This reframes the question from external desire to inner cultivation. You are not chasing something outside yourself; you are aligning your energy, actions, and awareness so that what you seek naturally flows toward you.

5. The Deepest Understanding

At the deepest level, this question is about alignment and consciousness:

  • Attraction is less about visualizing or forcing outcomes, and more about embodying the qualities that naturally produce them.
  • Love, money, and happiness are not objects to acquire — they are emergent properties of a life lived with awareness, intention, and integrity.
  • True mastery of attraction comes when you stop thinking in terms of “getting” and start thinking in terms of becoming.

In other words, the ultimate answer is not choosing one of the three, but cultivating the self that naturally resonates with all three simultaneously.

#82
Listening Schedule

Legacy of the Spartan
Tuesday | 15 min
Wanted Black
Thursday | 15 min
Diamond
Where FUN is available
Fun Day| 15 min

▷ 21 days | 7 days break

The Uncomfortable Truth About Emotional Intelligence

People love emotionally intelligent people — until that intelligence stops benefitting them.
They love the way you listen, how your presence softens sharp edges and brings calm to chaos.
They admire how you seem to understand without judgment, how your words hold space for their storms, how you make things feel safe enough for honesty to exist.

They love your empathy — until it becomes a mirror.
They love your understanding — until it reveals what they’ve been unwilling to face.
They love your calm — until that calm begins setting boundaries instead of absorbing their chaos.

Because emotional intelligence sounds beautiful in theory — a virtue everyone claims to value — but in practice, it demands something many are not ready to give: self-awareness, accountability, and truth.

People say they want emotional maturity, but what they often mean is, “I want someone who can handle my emotions without asking me to handle my own.”
They want your compassion, not your confrontation.
Your softness, not your strength.
They want the version of your empathy that comforts their wounds, not the version that calls them to heal.

The moment your emotional intelligence asks for reciprocity — honesty, effort, vulnerability — it’s suddenly labeled as “too much,” “too deep,” or “too intense.”
Because being emotionally intelligent doesn’t just mean you understand others; it means you recognize patterns, energies, inconsistencies — and that awareness can be uncomfortable for those who prefer to live unconsciously.

They will celebrate your ability to decode silence until your silence speaks of your disappointment.
They will praise your patience until your patience starts to thin in the face of repeated neglect.
They will admire your strength until that strength chooses distance over tolerance.

What they forget is that emotional intelligence is not just gentleness — it’s discernment.
It’s knowing when to hold space and when to walk away.
It’s recognizing when compassion becomes self-abandonment, and when understanding someone else begins to cost your own peace.

People love emotionally intelligent souls for the safety they provide, but few are ready for the reflection they hold up.
Because true emotional intelligence doesn’t just comfort — it reveals.
It exposes what’s unhealed, what’s unspoken, what’s unresolved. It invites growth, and growth is rarely convenient.

To be emotionally intelligent is to see beyond behavior into the wound beneath it. It’s to know that anger is often grief in disguise, and defensiveness is fear trying to survive.
But it also means you can no longer unsee what others refuse to acknowledge. You can’t unknow the truth when someone’s actions don’t match their words. You can’t pretend to be okay when you feel the dissonance between what is said and what is real.

And so, the very thing that draws people to your light can become the reason they pull away — because your presence asks for depth in a world addicted to surface.
It asks for reflection in a world more comfortable with projection.
It asks for growth in relationships that would rather stay asleep.

But don’t let that harden you.
Your depth is not a burden — it’s your clarity.
Your empathy is not a weakness — it’s your power.
And your truth is not “too much” — it’s exactly what real connection requires.

You were never meant to make people comfortable; you were meant to make them aware.
Some will meet you in that awareness, and some will retreat from it. That’s not your failure — it’s their choice.

Emotional intelligence is not about being liked; it’s about being real.
And those who are ready for realness will recognize your heart not as a mirror they fear, but as a light that helps them see.