Washout
I decided to get out the house this morning. I went to my local art museum for the first time. I just spent about an hour walking around and stroking my chin, acting like I understand the meaning of what these artists are trying to convey. It was cool. I’m glad I took the time to do that.
On another note, last Saturday, I witnessed my pops get emasculated twice in his own home. My sis had just graduated college that morning, so naturally a graduation party followed that evening. Lots of people showed up, relatives and friends of sorts.
Some of us gathered in the garage where we ate and watched nba basketball. Both times happened in here.
The first time I saw my dad get emasculated was by his good friend, who help him set up the party. This friend was lounging in one of my dad’s reclining lawn chairs when he started to verbal jab my pops, who was standing by the coolers. My pops verbal jabbed backed. I wasn’t paying to much attention to them until I heard this friend say “Whatever, just bring me a beer and make sure you open it too” in a dominant manner. I looked at my pops to see what he would do. And you know what he did? He did exactly as commanded like he was this friend’s slave without saying nothing. He got the beer, opened it, and brought it over to him like he owned him. And I just thought ‘Oh’.
The second time he tried to assert himself on my great uncle. My pop owns a motorcycle and it’s very precious to him as well as expensive. My uncle is in a wheelchair and was parked too close to the motorcycle. My pops tried to get him to move up a little so he wouldn’t make contact with the bike, but he said it so jokingly that you couldn’t tell he was serious. My great uncle responded with a solid ‘no’. An hour later, he tried to get him to move again, but still said it jokingly like “You getting closer and closer to my bike man” and my great uncle ignored the fuck outta him.
Seeing my father get disrespected so bluntly like this was an eye opening experience for me. Growing up I was around my father at least 70% of the time. And he’s always talking about how we’re so much alike using phrases like “our personality” and such.
This really frustrates me. It seems like I have to do a whole personality change and make a 180 to get the life I want. And I’m fucking clueless right now.
I’ll be running another cycle of this stack starting tomorrow.