Reading chapter 44 of “The Way of the Superior Man” today. Regarding ejaculation needing to be either converted or consciously chosen.
Talks about how women are unable to fully trust a man who ejaculates too easily or too quickly, since he isn’t in control, etc.
This puts in context why the wife was crying during orgasm from the fingering. She’d already rode me and made me bust.
After that, even though I was “spent” and “empty” I still focused 100% on her, which touched that deep part of her that needs to feel attended to.
It makes sense now why it bordered on the “spiritual”.