I put this as a ticket but I figure it would probably fit here better.When I last/first ran old wanted, I would get the attention but the more I ran it the more I would lose interest in talking to and engaging with women,. After contemplating and thinking about it, I realized part of it is resentment as I did not grow as a good looking guy and it surprised me off how different people specifically women acted when I started listening to wanted and the amount of married women willing to cheat, it felt âfakeâ so to speak and I just didnât want to deal with them anymore. I realize this is not true to all women but if there is a sub or some insight on how to heal this issue I would appreciate it.
Life is a series of âdisappointingâ learning experiences.
But each so-called âdisappointmentâ ends up opening you up to new insights, opportunities, and possibilities that you would not have originally predicted. As long as you can get through the first phase in which youâre mourning the loss ofâand remaining attached toâyour previous view of things, youâll be good. Basically, youâre being sentenced to having an amazing life.
Just imagine if every assumption that youâd held at the age of 15 turned out to be true and to stay true for the entirety of your life. (yikes).
Anyway, Iâd say a heart- or love (not romantic love)-oriented program would probably be great.
The Art of Happiness and Joy, Love Bomb, or maybe Godlike Masculinity.
All of these are about cultivating the strength and flexibility of your own heart and mind. One of the basic mental features of human beings (and all other sentient beings) is something called âProjectionâ. It often looks like it is the world that is disappointing us, but it often turns out that weâre dealing with the reactions of our own (invisible) mind. Hmm⌠thatâs kind of a Godlike Masculinity sort of insight. So maybe thatâs my recommendation.
Thank you for your take, I hope it heals with time(not too much time) and maybe by then Iâll be ready for someone but for now I will start by god-like masculinity like you suggested and see where it takes me
People are people. Reacting strongly enough to feel like not engaging half humanity means you must have idolized them at some point and now you are seeing them for who they really are. People who are messed up and makes mistakes, no different to you and i
This turning point for real maturity. Donât despair
You can trust your intuition too. Youâll find, at various points, that you feel âdrawn toâ a particular program or practice. Itâs worth respecting that guidance. Donât over-think or over-pressure it. Weâre still human, and will still have ups and downs; but the internal voice or nudges often have something valuable to offer.
Run Heartsong, my friend. It will heal this for you.
Additionally, I would say that there is a period of adjustment you will go through where you are trying to get used to the fact that the reality around you has its own rules (women finding you more attractive than their husbands) and reconciling that with your previous belief that women are all good people.
Women are human too and will act in their own human ways which includes cheating or being loyal.
As you create your own reality around you using Wanted, it will be up to you to decide what type of reality bubble you want to live in and draw the line depending on your sense of morality and ethics.
Accept that things take time and go as far as to accept that you currently feel the way you do now but that view will also change as time goes on.
As you gain worldly and spiritual experience, you will eventually know how to handle such feelings and viewpoints and be more resilient and mature in dealing with different types of women.
Right now, congratulate yourself on being a Wanted man despite some eye-opening experiences and tell yourself you WILL grow in time and wisdom eventually.
When reading this - and I feel a lot of compassion for your situation as I also received zero romantic interest as a teenager - it strikes me that there is a way you could try to re-frame this in your mind.
Good looks, money and fame can all help with attracting women. And there are maybe a few women who will only date people with some combination of those attributes. But for the vast majority of people, those things are not essential for attraction/seduction. Again, not saying they canât help, just that they are not in fact essential.
But do you think that maybe over time, you built up the frame (mental assumption) of 'Iâm not good looking, so women arenât attracted to me".
I wonder if you could re-frame this by saying that THAT frame was the âfakeâ thing.
When running Wanted, that lie was exposed and you have seen that you actually have everything inside you (and externally) that you already need to attract women.
Donât know if this would be helpful, but I hope so, and looking at it from this angle might also help you with selecting which Subs to run too
Youâll have married women, partnered women, women testing your frame, other female floaters wanting to pull you out of your frame. Youâll also have men protecting their girl, stepping to you, giving you the evil eyeâŚ
You will feel as if the whole dating dance is an arena full of lies, but this is your test:
Can you see women for all and who they are⌠and still be unmoved?
If no, then washout will train you to sit in your own self.
If yes, then youâre ready for the next step - freer, more available women move into your field and you will be cool and calmness personified.
tldr: Youâre in recon, let it pass and a new you will emerge
And Iâll add, if you havenât seen what you yourself are, donât expect to see what other people (including women) are.
Weâve evolved to pay attention to about 1% of what we are. And I donât mean it in any super-mystical way (though thatâs true enough too). I mean, even from a physiological perspective, we ignore all of the internal organs, much of the skeleton, the lymphatic system, the inner scalp, pretty much all of it, and, beyond the physiological, we ignore much of the historical, social, cultural milieu, the ideas, the beliefs, the underlying emotional structures, and on and on. (âNice ass. Nice face. Great personality. Youâre a winner!.â)
This is not an indictment. We actually generally do okay like this. But itâs pretty crazy when you think about it. How much we persistently ignore while claiming to be âin touch with realityâ.
