New here - My introduction and advice asking

Introductions
#1

I’m new here. I would like to introduce myself and let you know a little of me and my expectations.

I looked at some topics in the forum and realized that most of you are younger people, although you have found some reports of middle-aged people like me.

I’m almost 50 years old, I’ve been married for a long time, I’ve been practicing martial arts since I was a child, so despite my age, I’m in good shape.

I have been working in my own law firm for over twenty years. I have my house, my car, I pay my debts on time. I have a master’s degree from the main college in my country. I had one of six places with more than 1,000 candidates in three written exams, one oral and one interview with an examining bank. I finished the master’s degree with all the marks in all the subjects with use of 100%.

I have some experience in meditation and brainwave entertainment.

I have not tried the use of subliminal ones, I confess I have a dose of skepticism, but at the same time a great interest in obtaining benefits of this type of technology, thus, I am not the type of person who already affirms previously that this does not work, without at least making a valid attempt.

I imagine you may be wondering: with everything going so well with this guy, what can he be looking for here? Well, that’s what I’d like to report.

I got the two new titles available in pre-sale: “Regeneration” and “The Elixir”. It’s two titles aimed at emotional healing and it seems to be exactly what I need.

After so much time in the same job, in the same relationship, life seems to be gradually losing its color.

All the struggles of daily life seem to me to be charging their price.

I no longer have pleasure or interest in the work, I am procrastinating every day more. I have no more focus and it is sometimes difficult to complete a job while maintaining the same level of care and excellence that this type of work requires.

I am very good at what I do and this is the reason why my clients do not abandon me in the face of the growing delay in meeting their interests. I know they have not left me yet, but I also know that if that does not change, I will soon be alone.

I had many disappointments at work, especially with people of my confidence who betrayed me. Legal work seems to me increasingly a dirty business, enveloped in lies and people willing to win at any cost without worrying about the notion of justice or honesty.

I feel increasingly to be wearing a “tight clothing” formed of concepts and moral values ​​increasingly outdated. I have a great anger inside of me because of this, guilt, shame and I feel that I am wasting the time of my life without having found my true vocation or meaning.

In marriage, things go well for the most part. I really love my wife and I know that I am properly reciprocated. We have a good dialogue, we have fun together, we make plans for the future. We have, however, a mismatch in the sexual field. Over the years, that spark has been lost. Routine, stress, and again the day-to-day struggle was consuming our intimate relationship. My wife is a very beautiful woman and I still find her attractive even today. In fact, many younger girls are not beautiful like her and will not even age beautiful like her.

As I said, we gradually lost the sexual contact, consequently, I started looking for porn as an escape and now I can say that I am completely addicted. If I have an opportunity, I can spend hours on the internet browsing pornographic sites. If I do not have the opportunity to be alone to masturbate, a huge anxiety strikes me. I have tried routines like Nofap’s 90-day abstinence program without being able to finish. I also read the book “your brain on porn” and notice symptoms of erectile dysfunction because of porn. Even heavy pornography has already begun to be part of my menu.

I searched for traditional therapy and even with two years of work I did not notice any significant improvement. In fact my therapist thinks that this interest in porn is normal.

I feel my life running from my hands, I no longer feel the person I used to be. I do not have more pleasure and I know that this attitude can lead me to pathological states or depression.

This is the help I’m looking for here.

Now with this complete introduction, I would like to ask a few questions:

  1. After so many bad experiences in life, I confess that I do not even know which ones hurt me the most or that have produced the traumas that have brought me so far. Can using this subliminal achieve events that I no longer have in my consciousness? Or to succeed do I always have to know what I want to deal with?

  2. Will I succeed in getting rid of pornography addiction? And also be free of erectile dysfunction and interest in heavy pornography?

  3. Like I said, I spend most of my time with my wife and at work. What is the effect of exposing her to subliminal during sleep in our bedroom? Can it be influenced? In what ways?

  4. Today I see many sound boxes for mobiles, which are in one piece. Manufacturers claim to be able to reproduce sound in 360 degrees. Is this type of box suitable for subliminal use? Does this 360° technology play stereo sound?

Thanks for listening. Sorry for the long text. As soon as I start using the audios, I hope to have new questions.

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#3

As long as it’s not clown porn you will probably have success. Nothing cures clown porn addiction

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#4

Thank you! You made me laugh and took away my heavy heart on sharing these dark clouds here.

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#5

It will be interesting to see what effect those subs will have on you!

If you haven’t used subs at all yet, be aware of your dreams, and keep a paper journal where you write them and other things you’ve noticed that might be related to the subs.
This way, it will be easier to track your progress!

Good luck :slight_smile:

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#6

Take this as simply one anecdote but I started Emperor2 a week ago, with Beyond Limitless. I’ve had what I call a substantial pornography addiction for about 30 years. Am married, and in my mid-40’s, successful financially, in good physical condition, but bored with life. I have to say that since I’ve been listening, I haven’t had the urge. The one time I tried to go through the motions it was really an unpleasant psychological experience…like I recall sitting there going, “I don’t feel like doing this at all,” like it was a chore.

It’s early in the process, but I consider it encouraging. I’ve had nothing but opportunity today to engage in such unproductive habits, nobody was home but me, and I’ve had no urge to. Instead I managed to do some Yoga and reading and the Five Tibetan Rites. Whether it’s the Subs or the Rites that are helping, I can’t say as I started both at the same time, but I’m inclined to think it’s the Subs because it was psychological discomfort that I was feeling.

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#7

To answer some of your other questions, I play the subs at night, and my wife is in bed sleeping by my side. She is further away from the speakers, and I run the Ultrasonic. I’ve noticed no change in her behavior since I’ve been running them. She knows I have some subs on, I tell her that they are related to building a successful business, which is all true.

I use a Bose Soundwave Dock. No idea if that is the proper speaker system, but I really don’t understand the various types of technologies. I will also listen a little bit during the day, the Masked versions, with my ear buds in. This is typically if my kids are around. I don’t want them exposed to subliminals, as young as they are.

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#8

It might be that you are in the state of “upper limiting” yourself. You’ve felt success (your comfort zone) and your mind has started a downward spiral. And If my analysis is correct you are perhaps in The Zone of Competence. Or, since you’ve been working for a long time, over 20 years. You might instead be in The Zone of Excellence. A very good zone to be in although it can quite be dangerous.

"Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure. Unfortunately, our thermostat setting usually gets programmed in early childhood, before we can think for ourselves.

Once programmed, our Upper Limit thermostat setting holds us back from enjoying all the love, financial abundance, and creativity that’s rightfully ours. It keeps us in our Zone of Competence or at best our Zone of Excellence. It prevents us from living in the ultimate destination of the journey—our Zone of Genius.

If you make a spectacular leap in one area of your life, such as money, your Upper Limit Problem quickly enshrouds you in a wet-wool blanket of guilt that keeps you from enjoying your new abundance. Guilt is a way our minds have of applying a painful grip on the conduit through which our good feelings flow."

"In the Zone of Excellence are the activities you do extremely well. You make a good living in your Zone of Excellence. For successful people, this zone is a seductive and even dangerous trap. To remain in this zone is to hobble yourself from taking the leap into your Zone of Genius. The temptation is strong to remain in the Zone of Excellence; it’s where your own addiction to comfort wants you to stay.

It’s also where your family, friends, and organization want you to stay. You’re reliable there, and you provide a steady supply of all the things that family, friends, and organizations thrive on. The problem is that a deep, sacred part of you will wither and die if you stay inside your Zone of Excellence. There is only one place where you will ultimately thrive and feel satisfied, and that’s…" (The Zone of Genius)

Excerpts taken from The Big Leap one of the books I recommend you read. It explains your predicament quite well I think.

You don’t have a strong WHY you do what you do. Hence, for deep introspection on your why. I recommend
you also read The Values Factor book.

Since you’ve already built up good foundation in regards to your life. I would sparingly recommend to go with Emperor V2 (instead of Regeneration) and let it fuel your motivations and ambition. But then again before doing any subs, I say “sparingly” because its best to know what your goals are or are going to be.

On goal setting I would advice to go with 10X Rule to specifically to write down motivative goals.

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#9

Thank you guys for all advice. I enjoyed a lot. I will follow your directions reading the books L3773R told about, looking on my dreams and taking notes on them as Refresh said.
OmFlux, I also enjoy the Five Tibetan Rites, it´s simple and powerful. I´m not doing it anymore because I´m on Qigong. I really believe that a strong energy body circulation helps to the changes I´m looking for.

OmFlux, it´s interesting what you told about no change in your wife, as you listen the sub at the same bed in fact. I really I´d like to hear about it from Saint or Fire, because if there is no effect in someone near you, two things I think: one) I can hear the subs in my office (where I have people going in and out), and 2) If someone, is exposed to the sub in regular basis (as your wife in bedroom, all night for 8 hours 7 days a week) how she could not be affected? Is it a placebo effect?

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#10

@OmFlux should most certainly be careful. Not noticing a change isn’t the same as a change not actually happening. If he’s running subliminals around his wife, she’s most certainly being affected. That being said, since our subs don’t necessarily attempt to “make” you do anything, it’s easy to ignore or resist any tiny urges resulting from being exposed, especially the subliminal isn’t in line with your personal goals. If she’s not trying to start a business, or isn’t really interested in that, the subliminal may spark the idea about entrepreneurship, but won’t “make” her do anything.

That being said, if any married person is skeptical, grab Sex Mastery X, don’t tell your significant other which sub it is (but let them know you are exposing them to subliminal audio), run it for a few days and watch what happens.

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#11

Thank you! It answers some of my questions. If in fact the exposure of someone who is not aware of sub runing in backgroud can affect the person, it tells me that it´s not a placebo effect. By other side, it means that it can affect situations that I´m not aware myself. I think that a trauma usually goes deep inside your subcouncious mind so, your conscious portion it´s after some time not aware that it is there. I believe with this possibility that would be possible to heal things from long time ago. Maybe karmic issues?

#12

Well, after some days on Regeneration and The Elixir, I have some questions.
I´m on these titles since it´s got availabel for download. I made it on “set and forget” and playing all night at my bedroom. I uses The Elixir two cicles on the morning. Somedays, when it´s not possible I made it at night. I got some days off, but I can say it´s an exception.

I really don´t know what the sub is doing. I have no clues about it. No dreams at all. (In fact I can say I had one or two dreams all these days), I followed the sugestion on a thread here about using PSTEC for releasing emotional issues, and it seemed to make things faster.

I only have an overall feeling that I am “lighter” (but still struggling with porn and procrastination)

Am I doing something wrong? Is there any way to make it go for the issues I´m looking at?

An extra opinion: The Elixir is amazing. It´s nice to hear. The girl have a delicious voice and her accent is a spell itself. I can hear her voice for hours :wink:

Any advice will be very welcome.

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#13

First, what issues are you trying to address? It may be that Regeneration and The Elixir aren’t the best tools for what you’re trying to achieve. Looking back at your initial post – and apologies, while I wish I could look at everyone’s thread, sometimes I miss things – it actually seems like Emperor is a much better selection. Regeneration is much more noticeable in people with severe emotional traumas, which, based on your level of achievement, doesn’t seem to be an issue. Your issue seems to be rooted in wanting to forge a new path for yourself and discover a new meaning.

That’s Emperor in a nutshell, and it’s why I started running it too. I found success in the marketing industry, but I found my passion for the field lacking. I’m an artist / creative at heart that just happened to make good money selling things to people. Emperor has helped me reconnect with the artist, while also helping me maintain the lifestyle I’m used to from my marketing career.

Remember, the way our subs were scripted, you have to be taking action to really see a difference. With New Dawn, this may change a bit, as we want to provide more motivation toward taking action. Until then, though, you’ll have to take the first step. With the porn issue, for example, try abstaining a bit harder. Get up and walk away. Note how you feel. It’s in those actions where the alchemy occurs and where you’ll see the new programming kick in.

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