I’ve been a lurker here for awhile and have finally decided to get the ball rolling and dive deeper into subs. I only have a few weeks background with some subs from YT which convinced me that they do work, but I never committed because of the controversy with people putting negative shit in their subs. I’m looking for suggestions on which programs/stack to pick.
So my background:
I’ve started my journey into self-development about 2 and a half years ago, and I can say that I am a completely different person and that I’ve improved in many, many areas. However, I’m still not where I want to be (I don’t think we ever reach that ideal image which can be good because complacency kills and if you aren’t improving you’re losing). I feel like I can continue my journey without subs and was pretty reluctant to get back into subs because I never want to feel dependent on external factors for my own success which the YT subs were making me feel. I felt like I had to listen to them so I stopped. Reading the stuff on here and people’s results made me feel subclub is different and legit so I’ll give this a go. I’ve progressed a lot over the past couple years but I’m still dealing with negative programming from when I was younger and the insecurities that come along with it (self-esteem, caring about what other people think about me, etc.). I’ve gotten better because of mindfulness and meditation but I could always improve on that front.
Over the years, my success with women has gone from practically nonexistent to pretty good. I’m more confident, relaxed, better/healthier mindset, and I just know what works and what doesn’t now. Ironically, the more the success I’ve had the less I’ve been interested I realized. I’ve wasted so much money, time, and effort trying to chase girls over the years and while the validation is nice for a little, it always left me wanting more and never truly content with myself. I always had to get that other girl or maintain this girl and if I fail or can’t keep them, I’ve regressed blah blah blah. It’s tiring. I still want to keep my skills with women sharp but I don’t want it to be some sort of goal in life. I don’t want to neglect them completely, but I need to stop chasing them and start focusing on my purpose and mission in life. I also need to get way better at managing my money especially since I have quite a bit of debt I’ll need to start paying off soon. I also want to be better with money so I can live comfortable and retire relatively early. I’m a pretty laid back guy in general so I don’t want to become a hothead all of a sudden although I realize that being aggressive is necessary in situations. I’d like to improve my social skills and charisma and charm especially since I’m currently looking for jobs (or maybe I should just start my own business?). And finally, although I don’t think there’s a specific sub for it, but I’d like to stop watching porn. I’ve greatly reduced it over the years but it’s definitely caused a lot of my problems in life. It’s self-sabotage and feel like it sets me back although I always come back from it. It’s like 3 steps forward, 2 steps back. Porn is my biggest external issue, and then probably binge drinking. I was a big party guy in college but it’s time to get my life in order now. I’m started to feel more negative effects from drinking recently, even from a social aspect.
I know that was probably a lot, but if you read all that, thank you! I’m excited to start this journey.