Need help for relationship struggle

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#1

Hi everyone,

I’ve been using subliminals for a long time, but this is my first time posting here. I’d really appreciate some advice from experienced users.

My main issue:
I struggle with overthinking, anticipatory anxiety and sexual performance anxiety, especially around my erection.

Sometimes sex starts fine, but then my mind suddenly starts checking:

  • “Is it still hard?”
  • “Is it hard enough?”
  • “Am I feeling enough?”
  • “What if I lose it?”

Once I start monitoring myself, I stop enjoying the moment, anxiety kicks in, and my erection can weaken. Then I focus on it even more, creating a vicious cycle.

Other times, the anticipatory anxiety starts before anything even happens, and I’m already worried about whether I’ll be able to get or maintain an erection. Sometimes I’m so anxious that the erection simply doesn’t happen in the first place.

Unfortunately, this seems to be getting worse over time, and I’m finding it harder to simply let go and be present.

What I want:

  • Less overthinking and mental checking
  • Less anticipatory anxiety
  • More calmness and presence
  • More sexual confidence and security
  • To stop treating sex like a performance/test
  • To genuinely enjoy intimacy without analyzing myself

My current stack:

  • Wanted Black
  • Sex Mastery X
  • Diamond

I’ve used Sex Mastery X and Diamond for months without seeing significant results. I also used Wanted Black for about a year before my current relationship, which has now lasted over a year. I recently started using Wanted Black again.

So I’m wondering whether I’m simply using the wrong titles for my current goals, or whether there are other titles that might be a better fit.

I’m also working on the psychological side of this, but I’d really like to hear from people who have dealt with similar overthinking, anticipatory anxiety, sexual anxiety, performance anxiety or erection monitoring.

What titles or approaches helped you?

Thanks! This is my first post here despite being a long-time user.

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#2

First things first, are you sure you are listening to them correctly? What’s your schedule and listening durations for each title?

#3

Try Godlike Masculinity

I would also recommend Peace

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#4

Thanks for the suggestions! I actually used Godlike Masculinity for several months in the past. It did give me some grounding, but I didn’t notice much change in terms of overthinking or emotional reactivity.

I haven’t tried Peace though, so that one is definitely interesting to me. I might look into it and see if it could be a better fit for what I’m dealing with right now.

#5

Yes, I’m following the instructions and using them as recommended. I’ve been using subliminals for years and have had quite a few results from them, so I’m familiar with the basics.

The main thing is that I haven’t noticed much change specifically with the anxiety/overthinking side of things.

My current schedule is:

  • Day 1: diamond sex mastery
  • Day 2: rest
  • Day 3: WB
  • Day 4: rest
  • Then repeat.

So I’m mainly wondering whether these particular titles are the best fit for what I’m trying to work on.

#6

From the “outside looking in,” it seems that you’re dealing with an inability to remain in the moment. DIAMOND, for example, increases pleasure significantly. Theoretically, the heightened sensation alone should leave you immersed in the present moment – that is, until the mind begins to analyze and you retreat into inner processing, the opposite of what probably should be occurring during intercourse.

Neither Wanted Black nor SMX will really touch this issue. SMX is more about sexual technique and mastery – which is good, once you have this issue resolved. Wanted Black, being an advanced title, can generate recon related to self-worth and the such, which could exacerbate the issue.

While I do think Godlike Masculinity can help, it too has a strong introspective feel to it – which can lead to controlled processing, but processing nonetheless when it appears that being in the present moment is actually the accurate corrective measure.

Any title that would draw you inward or into your head may not be the answer. This leaves titles like Summertime, PEACE, Heartsong Stage 1. I’m curious what others think about those three options. Based upon my recent experiences, I’d say that Heartsong Stage 1 would do wonders for this situation, even though it may not seem like it would.

The issue is that I’ve run all three, and these types of results end up co-mingling. In the meantime, I’d also like to recommend something else outside of subliminal audio – Bluechew, a brand name for Viagra that is easily obtainable through their site.

The reason being is: every time that you have a failed interaction, the inner wound linked to this situation grows deeper. And while I think subliminal audio – over time – could help you resolve this, pharmaceutical intervention is quick and will alleviate the worst of the burdens since you’ll be able to perform at a level that you find adequate.

Then, you can use subliminal audio to deeply explore the issue. It opens even more options – titles like Dragon Reborn: Regeneration, which I wouldn’t recommend now since it’s another contemplative title.

If you’d prefer to stick with subliminal audio, I’d recommend doing a resonance check on the copy of Summertime, PEACE and Heartsong Stage 1.

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#7

Sounds like a great stack!