Narcissist Personality Disorder

Idk if this is the right section to post it on

Has Anybody dealt with narcissistic people especially family members? If so, what your experience

it’s so tiring and exhausting and Hell on earth if u grew up in a household where your very OWN parent/parents have NPD

I can write a books and my experience on it but it’s like pointless because nobody seems to be interested and I bet u guys wouldn’t want it I just keep it to myself

Honestly all my child hood abuse, traumas,cptsd, addictions from drugs and porn stem from my personification of Satan of a “fathers” narcissism

Hope this is a safe place where I can express my self and vent if not i totally understand

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It’s hard to cultivate a genuine, loving connection with someone who consistently makes everything about themselves. As you pointed out, relationships with individuals who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) can often involve ongoing emotional and psychological abuse—forms of domestic violence. However, if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who merely displays narcissistic tendencies, there’s still hope.

For these relationships to endure, the partner needs strong self-esteem, patience, an even-tempered personality, and a reason to stay. The narcissist often values certain resources—like admiration or attention—which can shape the dynamic. Over time, maintaining your self-esteem will require reinforcement from other parts of your life, such as work or friendships.

Success will also depend on your partner’s ability to respond constructively to your feedback. While they may not show empathy or understanding right away, if they can eventually acknowledge your concerns, it offers hope for growth.

However, if they’re unable or unwilling to accept your concerns, the relationship risks becoming unbalanced and emotionally draining—a dynamic that’s likely to deteriorate over time.

To get to a more balanced arrangement in your relationship, professional counseling can be important. You need to understand the basis for the apparent self-focus and insensitivity of your partner. While these things can come about for a whole range of reasons, they could also shift with some focused work with a therapist.

I involved myself with support group as part of our family philanthropy effort where we tackle lots of issues and one of those is people with NPDs.

You have to find a good buddy on this one, someone who listened and support you.

I had listened to LBFH and healing is crucial for you to make everything to work and eventually you will be able to managed NPDs.

You need to take note that healing is not a one time process.

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I’ll be brief here.

  • Start becoming comfortable in asserting yourself and setting boundaries.
  • Give as little emotional reactions as possible.
  • Dont explain yourself.
  • Dont hope for understanding.
  • Dont give any room for things to get emotional and if they do, you exist the conversation or leave the room. No more oxygen to the fire!
  • be patient, compassionate with yourself yet assume responsibility over your emotions and emotional reactions.
  • Do not fall into the same old tricks, games, manipulations and gaslighting.
  • Don’t fall for empty promises & victim stories

And lastly, stop taking it personally! People like that are their own biggest enemy, they need others to feel as bad as they do and love nothing more than bringing them down in order to feel better. Promise to never repeat the cycle and start by finding yourself… Furthermore, avoid relationships which function entirely on you chasing approval. Put your self first and do not compromise your happiness for anyone.

Hoping for logic and compassion will go nowhere! Give it to yourself instead and do what needs to be done, regardless of the short term discomfort!

Life has forced you in an unfair and cruel cage… you staying or leaving is entirely up to you. Do not set yourself up to failure by creating a new cage made out of " perfectionism & full control "… That cage will seem better short term but it’s far worse than any other.

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Run Lovebomb for a longer time and develope a love in yourself That washes all the surface and root problems away.

All the best to your Journey