Just jotting down quick ideas first. Hopefully more later:
wisdom
humility
perspectival flexibility - what I mean specifically is that I can both embody someone who is engaged, energized, and confident on his/her own creative path of unfolding, building, being in the world (i.e., I embody a highly effective role model who doesn’t just tell you but shows you)
but at the same time
I am able to put my path and my life to the side when I desire or when it’s appropriate, so that I can cheer you on, share in your successes, trials, defeats, and victories without having to reduce them to extensions of MY life.
I can help without needing to control. My family and my children feel both supported and FREE around me.
I. Get. The. Balance. Right.
When necessary, I Let Go.
But letting go does not mean forgetting about or ignoring. Not “taking my ball and going home”. It means giving rein, giving respect, and giving space for your creative agency.
I have sincere, honest-to-goodness Mudita. Empathetic joy. I have the capacity because my life and my heart and my mind are large enough to accommodate more than just one ego. So, again I can take joy in your story without it having to be close to my own.
I have a decent sense of my strengths and weaknesses, so that I know when you would best be helped or enhanced by someone else. But I also don’t use this as an escape clause to run away from things about you or aspects of you that are challenging or difficult for me.
I am f**king good with money, property, and navigating the material world. So that, when needed I can provide material support to my biological and spiritual family.
But I also have excellent boundaries and do not allow my helping of others to bleed into abuse or mistreatment of myself.
I find relationships and people (including the muddy, sewage-y parts) FUN. It’s not some stuffy, saintly, bullshit journey of sacrifice, service, and martyrdom. No. I LIKE seeing my people win and thrive. And I like getting in the trenches from time to time. And helping to raise that barn.
Kind of like this magnificent Aussie: