Main discussion thread behavior

The Emperor's Lounge
#1

Hey there community, I noticed for a long ass time this same cycle.

Maybe if I point out the cycle then you guys won’t do it anymore lmao.

I notice that anytime there is a drama on one of these main discussion threads it’s usually 1 individual and then it creates a chain reaction. Before you know it, there are 10-15 different posts with everyone’s input.

The more you reply and give the drama attention, the more you’re adding fuel to the fire.

This is what I learned recently and thought I’d share it…

You don’t actually have to give an input, you can just flag posts and go on about your day lol. Crazy right? LOL

Next time something like that happens, I invite you to just flag and ignore.

Remember the most important thing is to maintain a healthy, positive and welcoming community. Main discussion threads need to reflect this. From now on, before you post you need to ask if you’re contributing to that or making things more confusing.

And of course I have done similar stuff in the past but I learned myself and maybe I can share this learning, but yeah. lol :man_shrugging:

Also, if one is in heavy recon then they should take a break from the forum.

Let me know your thoughts

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#3

I laughed hard at that title :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes: Funnily for me this latest drama actually co-incided with a rare spell of angry recon in my own little head space.

To me each one of these instances, whether it be drama on the forum or anger and frustration in your own life, is a perfect opportunity to practice mindfulness and not habitual reaction.

Just look around you, sit at a crowdy spot and just watch people. Then notice how most people are just on auto-pilot. They just habitually lash out and get emotional, and then the wind-down happens… rinse and repeat… no wonder most people are bored :grin:

The funny thing is, that if you think about it, everyone is just reacting to themselves, just like making funny faces in the mirror :sweat_smile: So, do you want to be a conscious human being that chooses to live his or her life by reponding, or do you want to be a robotic habitual parrott?

The way others treat you is the way you are treating yourself, and all feedback is useful feedback, the question is just if you are willing to drop your chains, and to step out of the cave?

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#4

LOL is that what they call “people watching”? Yeah most people are on autopilot, it’s pretty funny

YES!!!

I’ve been impressed lately by this community as we all grow, it’s like we have more self-control on our emotions. We’re less reactive in general, and know what’s worth giving our energy to.

It’s pretty amazing how everyone is growing and becoming more alpha :raised_hands:

I don’t see any drama escalating in the future in the forum, we’re all just too alpha and congruent now LOL, all the childish crap has ended

What do you think Tobyone Kenobi?

#5

WOW. :clap: :clap:

That is PROFOUND, I need to hang that up somewhere in my journal lol

Where you be gettin these wisdoms from, mate??

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#6

Mostly from my meditation and putting it into my daily life as a practice :pray: I do the 6R’s (loving kindness) technique that is a modern form derived straight from the Sutta’s that Buddha taught with his “Right Effort”, that ultimately leads to cessation of the mind and the end of suffering… sounds easy, doesn’t it lol.

Been doing it for about a month, and it gets easier and easier for me to see how the mind’s attention impersonally moves, and that nothing is personal, just the silly mind going round and round creating stories out of nothing :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:

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