I don’t have an harem and I have no desire to have it.
Too much drama. Too much work.
Most women don’t meet our minimal requirement level for a 2nd date, I can’t even imagine having a “relationship” like as in an harem.
Just last week my wife and I met and kissed 4 different hot women. Only 1 we’ll pursue for a threesome as the others showed too much red flags.
We had two threesomes in the last 40 days. One girl got too attached too fast and we ditched her, the other one got attached too but she ditched us.
Like I said, it is a lot of work to find a good woman that it’s nice to keep around.
I love all parts of that unicorn pursuing dynamic, but I’m not in the mood to deal with that type of drama outside of our occasional flings.