I’ve been thinking about this line, because I realize that it comes off as though I am shaming those who are looking for sexual results and am placing myself on a pedestal for being able to identify the spiritual elements of Wanted Black, that have been amiss in this thread.
It also reminds me of another interaction last week, where I went to lunch with people and they had mentioned how I’m always flirting with all the girls that come see me, and my reaction was “whaaaaat? Nooooo of course not”. It came from a place of shame.
There is something deep down inside of me that feels shame when it comes to sexual interaction, pursuit of sexual pleasure and sexual fulfillment. There is something inside me that is critical of myself for the fact that I, like every normal human being (and male especially), has a natural sexual desire.
Surely this shame stems from childhood, and the way sexuality was treated in my conservative household. While my rebellion in my late teens did not lead to much, one of the positives was how open I was with sexuality during this period. As I found religion, I began to close that part of me off again, as if I equated the two together.
I also feel there is a slight trauma involved in relation to the combination of being raised around extreme feminists (“believe all women”) , combined with the idea of false accusations for sexual harassment and rape that touches me in a sensitive place. That has made me very apprehensive as a result, to pursue my natural sexual desires.
This is a major problem in my subconscious: a distinction needs to be made between religion and spiritual needs, and the body and sexual needs, which are normal and natural. I also need to get rid of this doomer mentality that I didn’t realize was as strong as it actually is.
This was the type of realization I was hoping to get to with KBBC stage 1. The fact that I got it with Wanted Black (and perhaps it had a synergistic effect with KBBC) is a testament to how good this sub has been for me so far.
One loop y’all. Just one so far.