I totally agree with you. Facing deep rooted fears that create an illusion of weakness, or an illusion of insufficiency is not very different from the fear of death. What exactly dies? It is the identity that one has built his whole existence around, it is the familiar hell, and sometimes it can be very scary to let that illusion die and end up in a proverbial desert so to speak where you then find a new path to build a new reality.
It is not easy but it is necessary and demands conviction, bravery, and the will to sacrfice voluntarily before the illusive reality leaves no choice and demands a sacrifice, which is often much harsher and greater than what you would sacrifice voluntarily.
I have been meditating on Kali lately, Iāve been feeling a strong connection with her, but I know why. She slays the illusive ego, the limitations, the shackles, the unnecessary order built on a foundation of lies and helps one transform. But in order to get the blessings, one needs to come from a place of humility and offer the sacrifices that she demands in the process voluntarily.