Going back to the basics with Khan, again for the 8th time (just finished ST1 again and started ST2). Trying a very basic approach with less, just because of everything going on.
Khan is known for its challenge, though its fruit is relaxed mastery, and I’m starting to realize I am a lot closer to Khan in many aspects.
Due to my excessive approach to life, I’ve physically and mentally burned myself out. To the point all my energy has been exhausted in exercise or intense emotions, so much tension, and now I have bad nerve pain, etc. from that stress on the mind and body and intense emotions.
Wasn’t really the subliminals, but how I respond to situations. So I’m focused on finding my Zen, manifestation practices, rituals, sacred spaces, and of course sex .
Mastery over social and sexual dominance, power, speech, self (Khan ST2 is about some discovery of self and developing the characteristics of your choosing).
There is a big emphasis on being in charge of your own destiny. There’s certain small adjustments which lead to profound changes (that includes big and dramatic) far into the future, and this edition of Khan has foresight scripting to see far in the future, and it works well for me. That’s why Khan is on Emperor: Will To Power’s stack recommendation, and they pair great together. Small tweaks lead to big opportunities and events and then you progress to big changes. It’s gradual and building. So a marathon.
As far as sex. Say you’re doing all the same things as your bros and not getting the same results with women. You’re doing the exact same thing, but there’s something about the approach that’s incongruent. You’re going to find your style and effective delivery on Khan over time that’s true to your unique self.
Someone that analyzes micro-expressions observed me and essentially told me about Khan, without telling me about Khan. He knows nothing of Khan, but he broke down why people are so willing to oblige my wishes, the people I filter out, and the faults in some of the approaches. The flashes are so quick, not even I would be aware. So what you will get down the road is “relaxed mastery,” or nonchalance and the attitude of a pro. Someone who’s been there and done that, and you will have a certain sprezzatura and effortlessness in your approach to life, which creates this aura and reputation of coolness.
The attitude of taking charge of your destiny, and those that let you lead them, by their free will, and nothing can throw you off course. Sex is one thing. I used it for many things other than romance. The coolness is that IDGAF attitude. You will power-through obstacles, and it adds a lot of drive/kick, but you have to be aware as to not reach frustration.
Value Proposition and Striking While The Iron Is Hot
So, I used the romance/dating scenario, so let’s go to group dynamics at work. I theorize we all hold silent elections in our head on individuals in groups. A part of conquest is “striking while the iron is hot,” and Khan develops a keen eye for the right moment to strike. Often times, one may not pursue their true aspirations because of apprehensions, or when they do go after it, there may be a lot of self-monitoring, then doubt, then confidence waning, and that creates tension as well that diminishes the leadership presence (shaky voice, unsteadiness, micro expressions of uncertainty). Persona (external image) is one thing, though the inner qualities are the big focus first on the program. The institutions we work within are often on time-constraints which limits how much of an impression we make and something as simple as the appearance of strength and certainty is enough for career advancement.
I think after the introduction of NSE, there is probably a bigger focus on value-proposition (which you can find in other subliminals like ASBR and NRICH). You’re going to take the dynamics of everyone around you into account, and offer something distinct. The focal point of the Khan copy is distinction. @Akephalos
Proactive Approach
In 2024, we see a dating/romance crisis (primarily in Western society), which I think is a combination of communication breakdown, generational shifts, righteous activism, and negative demagoguery from influencers. With that said, there has been a purported decline in men approaching women for dating.
Outside of the internet and chronically online people, life is calmer and more reasonable and with Khan, it will set you apart if you take at the very minimum 5% more approaches and risks than the average person. I see a lot of people in general in 2024, that have lacked traditional wisdom that worked and proper communication amongst each other.
@Yazooneh I appreciate it brotha. The same to you . I have been disciplined in my exercise this year. Either purely pursuing boxing or going down MMA path (I am naturally talented at grappling, so I’ll see if I want to advance this).
Indeed. Wisdom is something a lot of people are gaining slowly today. Khan delivers it swiftly, though through hard work.
@Phoenix That one is more of a me thing. I’m impatient, I want things NOW. So with the ambition + extreme drive, it’s good for actually doing things, but if it’s a long-term plan, I struggle with tempering the fire and expectations of how soon progress will be achieved. That was a lot of the recon for me; driven by impatience and lacking the grit to proceed even when nothing appears to be happening.
Thats one thing i dont get about khan, its about developing power, dominance and status all around and i completely align, resonate with that in my cells but for dating approaching others is giving them the power.
I always looked at it as pathetic, kind of social begger behaviour. You can work on inner growth and build yourself and your life for decades but if you get rejected then you are the biggest loser on the planet…
I guess i prefer wanted black strategy in this area i want the gravity of power in social dynamics to be in my sphere.
In a perfect world, you’d be very high status or famous even, having big parties, or an athlete and having girls sliding in your DM’s. This is not most people’s realities however, but the goal of Khan IMO is working towards that type of status and life style to where you don’t actively have to approach.
In the meantime, most of us are probably not going to sit around with women in our lives, so next option and my personal favorite strategy is to create a mini/watered down version of that and becoming some what of a local celebrity. Whether it’s in the work place, your favorite bars in town, a music scene/group, living that type of life style is very possible. Women want who other women want, and if you are “the man” in your local area, you can do very well without ever approaching. I truly believe that if a celebrity athlete or musician came in to my group, my local scene, bar/concert or whatever, I would make them look silly and socially awkward if they were trying to impress the women.
That being said, I also don’t believe cold approach is low status if you do it the right way. I actually think if you see a girl that your attracted to, and you don’t come up and talk to her; pending your in a relationship/married, that behavior is actually what’s low status. If you think about someone with extreme status, let’s use Dicaprio for example, and he saw a girl walking down the streets he was attracted to, would it be low status for him to say hi?
A lot of the status/power dynamic depends more on how you perceive yourself rather then the action/behavior. If you go up to a girl that you find attractive, totally self amused; make a joke or give her a compliment not giving one damn how she responds, I view that as more self confidence then anything else, and I would be willing to bet a substantial amount of money she would too.
The whole pick up is low status thing appears to me, comes from guy’s who are not confident, using that as an execuse to not grow a pair and introduce yourself. High status/powerful people do hard things, low status people are afraid to take the action because they don’t have the confidence.
Cold approaching will never “give women the power” simply because most men nowadays are too cowardly to cold approach any girls…seriously guys: cold approaching is the most powerful thing you can do as a guy because it automatically communicates you have the balls as a man on his own to go after what you desire while putting your ego on the line…that takes more khan spirit then any socially proofed celebrity relying on fame to do the work for him…
anyways, started a new stack of WTP + KHAN + WB this month and holy crap total breakdown as a sub is the comfort zone destroyer. I’m literally running into what causes me fear everyday just to test/overcome my limits and this is just stage one??? hell yeah feels good to be back on khan.
This is nothing more than a 1:1 reflection of how strong your fear of rejection is.
Impressively strong, lol.
“The biggest loser on the planet”, being the level of shame, unworthiness, and inferiority you subconsciously associate with the idea of being rejected.
The beautiful thing about this, is that while it’s consciously irrational… subconsciously it isn’t so much, lol.
No, It’s a proactive step to close a deal. This is not dominance over the other person. But then when on selling a balance between assertiveness and respect for the other person’s autonomy is essential.
I found this kind of thinking all over the pick up community back in the days, that overthinking, and that always believing that everything is about one’s and zero’s. But what happened to just going out and doing whatever f you want, talking to new people, connecting, and having fun and truly not bothering about how you are perceived by others? Is that low status…?
Personally I’ve found that when I’m in my natural social zone, I literally don’t see more than a couple of yards in front of me, like I’m in a bubble. That means I don’t bother about what goes on around me more than in that bubble, because I used to be hyper aware of everything going on around me, and that pulled my attention all over place. Now a days I’m just present with what’s in front of me, and it’s just nice and liberating to be in my bubble, and not having my energy being pulled away by all the commotion around me.
To me it’s just Freedom that comes from within, that electrifying confidence to be that man that does whatever he feels like, but from a place of strength. And if that brings out thoughts like, but I can’t do that, or what would others think, or I’m a afraid I might, etc etc. If that is so, then you’re still in the grip of those deep seated beliefs, and no matter how much you’ll try it will show up in your life. It’s time to look at these beliefs, literally putting them naked in front of you and using your awareness.
Those kind of beliefs I would categorize as “introjects,” things put on you form the outside, and things that if just examined closely and with piercing awareness, is just found to be hollow, and can then just be dispelled from your beliefs systems, because they are simply not true as it’s not “You!” I found it literally that simple with those kind of beliefs when I truly understood it. Like, ahh I now I can see where this came form, but it was not something I personally came up with or thought through, so why would it have any grip over me? Bye bye!
Maybe it is that the truly high status man does not even think about status…? Because why would he, as he already has a deep seated belief and freedom from within to just be himself. It’s like a paradox, as when you want to get there you’re still in that old way of thinking, and when you’re there it does not even cross your mind.
A good example can be again from that good old Pick Up community… Like someone can have spent years becoming a master at PUA, and being able to sleep with tons of women, but it’s all coming from trying and not being true to yourself. I have seen this so many times, and they mostly go suicidal and are neurotic and nervous wrecks on the inside.
Then you have the man who from an early age just knew he was attractive and women were just as easy as running water, the illusive “natural” type that everyone in the PUA talked about. Talking to those guys almost always prompted them to say, I don’t know, I’m just being myself and having fun. Sounds super cheesy to the PUA guys, but it was so true. So the PUA guys go home and then go even harder pushing and pushing against these unwanted beliefs on the inside, approaching more and more women, but cannot understand why they are just feeling worse and worse…
So there’s definitely so many ways to get there, but some are just not as efficient and will have you on long detours that lasts for years and sometimes decades. But behind all these thoughts, schools, jadi jadi etc… Who’s always there? YOU! So start turning that attention you seek outwards inwards instead. Just dial down that noise coming from out there, and start listening to where it originated from instead.
A good set good questions to ask yourself is, who were you before all these beliefs that you picked up from your surroundings and culture? Who are you when you are completely relaxed? How would I act and think, and feel? What I mean is who you would be like when nobody is watching, who are you really, and why do you put up a charade when others are around? Also, how can I reintegrate all these split parts of me, that I pushed away, simply by accepting beliefs that were not true to me? That process is a bit more tricky as it’s wounded parts of yourself, that you will have to parent a bit, to have them grow up to be an adult and integrate them.
A good start that is so often overlooked for a man’s natural development and healing, is simply just relaxation (I went away form the city and lived in a forest cabin for 6 months, a bit extreme, but it worked wonders for me.) Masculine essence is stillness, not being swayed, pure presence etc. I would recommend practices that develops this such as meditation, relaxation practices, strong determination sitting (very tough practice, but will really show what I meant with presence if you do it,) and also simply titles such as Sanguine. When mind and body slows down and becomes still, guess what… These things comes to you naturally…
Emotions drive you to action, we all know that. That’s why silence and still is so powerful, as it slows down the negative talk with the accompanied emotions that drives us to act and feel in ways that are not really what we want. Don’t give a sharp knife to kid, his hands are not stable enough, and his mind is not matured enough to handle such a sharp knife with care. Develop your stillness, the platform, and only then introduce the knife.
Damn, every time I want to answer with a short paragraph… it just becomes a wall of text… Damn you Limitless Oh well that means I can use more of my favorite emote even more…
And BTW this wall of text is just opinions that I have formed, super neurological highways in my brain, habits! So take everything with a grain of salt, and form your own opinions… woop woop!
The tiger is the Apex predator of whatever habitat it happens to be in. And yet, the tiger pursues prey. Is the concept of “I like what I see, I should make it mine” and actually achieving it the… opposite of dominance?
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. I have been disciplined in my exercise this year. Either purely pursuing boxing or going down MMA path (I am naturally talented at grappling, so I’ll see if I want to advance this).
Oh well that means I can use more of my favorite emote even more… 