I haven’t finished it yet but I will. I’m not a Millennial but it looked like an interesting read.
I haven’t read that but I will check it out. Thank you
This is another book worth reading
I picked this up after watching part of an interview with him on YouTube
I actually sometimes envy people that have known their entire lives what they wanted or wanted to do. I had no clue and still feel that way sometimes. Now it’s more about what makes the most sense rather than if it’s something I really want to do. It’s frustrating but whatever. I’m not in a hurry anymore.
Yep! I shared it awhile back.
All her books are amazing. Her second book seems like it’s about Shadow Work. Although her other book I posted a link to felt that way at times as well. I seriously struggle with learning to love myself even though I’m sure getting there would change my life completely. I always heard growing up and even later that a person has to love themselves before they can love anyone else. That’s not entirely true but if a person wants a healthy low drama relationship than yeah you can’t wrong with making loving yourself a priority.
I struggled with this because I didn’t see that how I felt or feel about myself made me seek out and attract the exact opposite of what I knew I really wanted .
Love is the most natural thing in existence in the universe, I think it’s less about trying to love ourselves and more about reducing how much we hate ourselves.
It’s a balance but if you can pull off being able to love yourself it definitely makes life a bit easier.
I heard that too growing up. I made a video on that before. Wish I could find it!
I feel that we can actively work on inner self love while with another companion who is also doing the work too.
She definitely gets into shadow work and inner child healing within all of her content.
She was a blessing in my life when finding her in 2018.
Learning to love all of our parts. To be compassionate and essentially reparent those parts of ourselves who still feels wounded.
Having been here a couple of years and reading your entries, this line right here speaks to some change that you’ve gone through.
That’s a big part of it. I now know that my hesitation was because I knew both mentally and emotionally that it was going to be difficult
I feel like the biggest thing I have finally been able to address since starting Phoenix is thinking and believing that everything in life should be fair. The fact that it isn’t was a major problem for me. Not that I could do anything about whatever it was other than complain or whine about it.
I was far from rational about this for most of my life. Endlessly comparing my life or the lifestyle of my Wife and myself to others. We know that’s the fastest way to make yourself miserable but I did it anyway. I never really considered the difference in situation , income , or whatever that made it possible for others to be able to afford things or go on vacations or whatever while I was working all the time and had to be frugal by necessity.
It drove me nuts and I probably made my Wife miserable by always complaining about it. I didn’t understand that me doing this was creating unnecessary tension between my Wife and I because she felt I considered it her fault that our lives were like this because she isn’t able to work because she’s disabled and we are still fighting to get her on disability. I never said anything to that but I now see how and why she felt that way.
I don’t think I ever really wanted what other people have. I thought then as I do now that it was always about options and opportunities.
Phoenix has helped me be OK with things that used to make me crazy or at least a bit crazier than I was at whatever moment. It’s difficult to accept that you’re just not meant to have a be certain things. I always thought I wanted to take Jiu Jitsu and I did long enough to realize I didn’t actually want to. I just had a brief moment in time where it seemed like a fun idea.
I now feel that a huge part of growing and maturing isn’t just about doing things you have always wanted to do but also having the restraint to be OK with not going after something or even someone.
Anyone noticed physical body heat on this?
Like radiating lots of body heat.
Ran a three minute loop yesterday and woke up today in a really bad mood for most of the day so far. Not sure what else to do at this point. May take tomorrow off as well and not run anything until at least Thursday.
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Any suggestions?
Thank you in advance
Take as many rest days as you need to. You will be fine soon.
What I do when I feel this way is to remind myself of the impermanence of it all, and not get to attached to it. Emotions come and they go that’s just the flow of things, and just as a gentle reminder, even if you have to write it in big letters on the wall to remember. So that way to me at least it is so much easier to just accept the mood, because that’s the truth right now, so why fight it? Just remembering is usually the hardest part, but even that can become a habit.
And also you are working on deep stuff as we all are here in Subclub, so a bad mood is a sign of progress isn’t it?. Frame it in a better way… thinking back to your post earlier about reframing.
Go outside and take a walk, get some sun. Handle what you can handle and enjoy some rest.
Is my advice.
Did start yesterday a new cycle without Phoenix.
I did a 10 day washout before this new cycle.
The Amount of Changes from Phoenix is incredible. The blooming since 11 days is deluxe.
I changed in so many ways and am grateful for this experience.
The most important thing besides breaking 4 different traumas to non existence is that I have started to understand the importance of taking action so that the scripts/subs can truly start to work.
Thank you Subliminalclub - I start to see a way, where pitch black darkness was is now a feeling that there is a way even for me.
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Similar response from me.
Take a walk
Process your bad mood.
Ask yourself what these feelings might be “about”. There’s often a story connected to the feelings. A subconscious narrative that’s organizing your perceptions. ‘Life is such-and-such.’ ‘I am so-and-so.’
Identify the story, accept that it’s in you, and then use your actions and words to speak back to the story; changing it.
