pain, fear, trauma, and disappointment lead us to shut down and question our potential.
When you’re doubting your potential and when your energy is shutdown, your desires tend to go unmet and get frustrated. This increases the pressure and desperation.
There’s a fear and pain-based contraction. Shut down.
What you need at that time is healing and expansion. Joy.
Find opportunities to enjoy being yourself and expressing your energy in some cool ways. Sounds simple, but it does help. Look for ways to experience and expand what’s great about you. It’s okay to start small.
Make that your project and your focus. Feeling cool. Exploring your joy, your greatness, your potential. Pushing your edges. Adventuring out. How can you connect to the world? How can you contribute benefit to the world in ways that feel awesome and fun to you? What’s your potential? It’s about having a cool life.
Joy and creative engagement are like a huge mansion with 100 different doors. If one door is locked, go try another one. I guarantee some of them are unlocked. Once you get inside, you can unlock other doors.
The secret is about going beyond yourself.
A kite that focuses on itself sits on the ground. A kite that expands its focus beyond just itself and opens to the wind? It flies. And flying teaches it much more than sitting on the ground did.
Bruh, make that your project, and some of these other concerns will start to take care of themselves. You’ll learn who you are at your best (and at your less than best), and the people who want you will see who you are and come to you of their own free will.
There are, of course, other ways to meet people, but if you’re not having fun and exploring your joy while meeting them, you probably won’t even like those people as much; and within a fairly short amount of time at that.
Bodies are boxes. Some very beautiful. The gift (and curse) is what’s inside of the box. That’s what you’re actually ‘getting’ when you ‘get the girl/boy’.
So…
