Isn’t it already in the sub?
I’ve used it for a year and can tell that I’m in full control of it.
Sometimes it’s just a part of the game. I’ve made some “sub-optimal” (to put it lightly) life decisions or what some have said “sacrifices” just for the sake of mastery and the virtues. Most are completely worth it. The more you let the virtue scripting seep into your life, the more you understand the values of what adhering to it can give you.
I’ve also refused to take some. The virtue scripting is not asking you to do the impossible. It’s helping you to get closer to that ideal, to the point where taking action that fulfils it feels like the most natural thing to do. We are in full control.
Well, at least that’s how the scripting works with me. It’s different for everyone to a degree.
I can’t remember a recon from not taking the “virtuous” decision.
Instead, HeO helps me build my character so I’d be much more inclined to take it.
I wish the best for your current situation though.