Have you ever been in a relationship with people who have deep seated issues? We all have issues but if you get to a point where you feel like you want to be a boyfriend/girlfriend and a healer at the same time, you’re already in a tough spot. That’s how unhealthy attachment starts. Speaking from experience…
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Addendum: Be a boyfriend/girlfriend or be a healer. Don’t try to be both. Why do you think professional therapists are forbidden to enter a romantic relationship with their patients? Those two roles don’t mix well at all and the outcome is often disastrous.
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All 4 stages of Khan Black are healing.
Other stages in KB have even more healing than Stage 1.
Speaking from experience, some of my best friends are ones I aided in their roughest times. simple as.
A good partner will be more than just a boyfriend/husband, that’s how I see it.
Because that would be authority abuse, however if one were to exit the professional relationship there would be no reason IMO for it to be unethical to date an ex-patient/ex-therapist, simply how I view it, people are people, not their jobs.
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Well said, champ.
I’ve said it before, but
Self-love is one of those bases. Most people’s relationships in society are based on approval-seeking, external validation, and etc.
I’ve walked the park about a 100 times now, and the scenery hasn’t changed. Lol…
In society, and in general… most people have this very weak, emotionally damaged, and cookie-cutter, fresh out the box/generational trauma based internal framework that is filtering every aspect of their life.
Most people instead of addressing their internal issues, just avoid and try to fulfill them. It works, but it’s not healthy and the QoL is low. The QoL and range/depth of fulfillment is way higher in a healthy relationship with healthy frameworks.
But in my opinion, it’s not practical for everyone because you have romantic stories that are messy, traumatic, and have a unique story attached. Sometimes your trauma, is what makes you, you. That’s just being human. It’s a beautiful thing and it’s always naturally happening. But in the discussion of QoL and experiencing the highest and healthy fulfillments possible in life… doesn’t matter how you slice it, nothing is based on trauma there. Everyone chooses their own QoL, lol.
Anyways, it’s interesting to see conversational dynamics on here.
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Exactly why I decided to just sit back and let things play out. It’s informative.
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