See, Total Breakdown was reconciling a belief I had regarding competition in love… the reason it went after these beliefs is that it is a trauma that stuck with me from childhood.
From birth on, (I’m Scorpio), I loved to discover sexuality with women, I found it adventurous and fun… I had the first sexual encounter when I was 15 on a vacation, I’m a tempting and teasing person but I was detached from the outcome.
All of that aside, it was not later when I was 16 that I fell in love for the first time and I began to realize how love and the attachment to that feeling triggered by this other person, made it difficult for me to seduce her… because I was outcome dependant. But this was not the real reason, this same girl was also loved and in love with friends of mine, friends I cared for – so it became a burden, because I had a deep connection with this girl, and I knew I could use my seduction skills to win her over and make her fall in love with me.
But I started to ponder over the fact that I would lose dear friends for loving this girl? So, instead, I choose to give my friends a chance, and I stopped showing signs of attraction, and I stopped seducing this girl – in the end, I got heartbroken and it discouraged me from looking for other girls because I only wanted this particular girl, my Heart was with this girl, and all other girls lost their special touch.
This love blinded me because I no longer sought love elsewhere, and at the same time, I could not go for this girl because I had already given way for my friend to fall in love with her.
Honestly, this broke me… I lost myself.
It was at this moment I discovered Spirituality and subliminal programming… I began a journey of self-discovery and studied a lot… but what happened is the same scenario unfolded with a different girl… and of course again, a best friend was involved.
I was running Khan this time, and Khan urged me to see that I could go for her. Which I did, but in the end could not go for the relationship because the pain, shame, and empathy for my friend his loss were too grave a burden to bear.
So, I kinda lost myself again because it became a constant burned on my Soul, something I was constantly made aware of – especially since both this girl and my friend were in my social circle, and I loved both but I could no longer love both fully because of what happened, and so eventually I did not win anything, but I lost all.
Two people who held most dear, I lost because of going for the love that was the strongest (with this girl), and I was also reminded of my past trauma, I wanted to choose for myself this time around, and it ended up in disaster nonetheless.
Both times were burdens inflicted upon my Soul that was constant suffering, each day, for 3 years each.
I believe this to be a karmic wound that has been paid for.
My Custom (The Chosen Star), and Total Breakdown have been working on reconciling these beliefs so I could be free again.
Khan has a lot of sexual and romantic freedom.
Depths of Love, with I Am in that Custom has been healing these traumas and releasing them with great success.
Ever since, I basically have overlooked romance, sexuality, love, etc
I was stuck in a scenario of suffering.
This has led me to question competition in Love. I do not love a girl easily, we must be a match on all planes of existence – not merely physical, it must be a resonance on the mental and Spiritual too or I’m simply not interested in a bond on such a level.
Because a relationship, let alone marriage is a bond, and this bond is a two-way street of constant exchanging of energies.
With the right partner, it may be a blessing, but for most people in this world it is a curse, and early on in my childhood, when I observed couples I became acutely aware of this fact.
So, I’m thankful for this precious healing.
I’m looking forward to having new adventures in romance and sexuality, and I hope with Chosen that I find the right partner, the partner I’ve always been looking for (Capricorn in Venus), one where I can heal, and grow successful.
This is a personal story, so I hope you appreciate me sharing this. I also hope it contributes to the forum and that people understand how easily you can let go of rather deep traumas by simply forging the right Custom.
I do not mind competition, I think the competitors know fully well there will be a winner and many losers.
However, when friends are involved, especially in Love, this became a questionable activity for me and I sense Total Breakdown in conjunction with this Custom is taking care of those beliefs like never before…
So thank you @SaintSovereign and @Fire, because in just a few weeks’ time I uncovered and healed one of the deepest anchors of hell that I was cursed with since childhood.
This has led me never being fully able to focus on loving life, focusing on my ambitions or career, even though I was born with great potential because I was constantly distracted by recovering from a deep insufferable trauma that was imposed on me day by day, for years, and once I got over it and removed the first girl in my life, not a year of taking a breath I found myself in a similar, but even more disastrous situation.
I think this was also a big portion of the dark night of the Soul I faced when first running romantic titles.
So far, since this washout this Custom, like I said, has been integrated flawlessly, I should probably stick with it but Stark is no longer of interest.
Changing a few modules, and removing Stark will still keep the momentum. I think now that I’m over this trauma in Love, I can Love fully again.