I have so much love for others that I sometimes forget to care about my own needs.
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That’s how I feel. I can’t seem to get myself excited about anything because I feel like it’s going to fall or fail eventually. I remember reading a book by
Kamal Ravikant about loving yourself like your life depends on it. I didn’t read the whole book but I remember there was a mantra or affirmation to repeat to yourself all day every day when you can or remember. " I love myself ".
I was going to stack LB with something else but I’m going to wait for a couple of cycles and see how I feel. I know a lot of my lack of motivation often stems from feeling bad about myself as does my self sabotage. I lose interest in everything. I don’t take care of myself like I should and I allow others to walk all over and disrespect me. I can’t let that go on any longer.
I said before how my sub hopping is because of my lack of self love and self worth.
I’m running one minute loops currently
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I command you to run it along with Emperor for six months, sir James.
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Why Emperor?
For many reasons yet resilience, eliminating faulty societal programming, building an iron frame and setting strong boundaries will do for all your daily ailments regarding the crap people throw at you.
If you didn’t want to come across as so intense, TWTP would do too.
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Would it shock you to know that even I feel like this at times as well? I think most people have these same deep fears and thoughts, but what makes a person wise is the willingness to admit it, face it and fight it. Just my humble opinion.
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Yep. Facing this realization wasn’t an easy process for me. I had an addiction to suffering for many deeply rooted reasons and for a long time too.
Suffering was the familiar and “comfortable” in my household growing up. If I didn’t suffer then I would be the outlier. It was a way to relate and connect with others closest to me. (Even if dysfunctional and toxic.)
It’s liberating to acknowledge and accept this in order to begin the journey to freedom.
Now I lovingly embrace being the “outlier.”
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Are you focusing on LB solo? I am doing this right now for a cycle.
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I just ran a minute loop of the New Emperor. I definitely need to develop the inner frame and strength I have never had. So Love Bomb and Emperor for at least the next six months.
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Nothing better to deal with those fears than self-soothing and reasoning ourselves out of them. Just like mother would soothe us and reason us out of any petty fear we’re so prone to succumb to when we’re toddlers.
Sorry for going off topic, James.
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We are all gonna hold you to this LOL
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Does this feel like an attainable goal or would it be easier to stay disciplined in smaller chunk sizes?
For me committing for just one cycle to something has done me good.
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Doing microloops is helping believe it or not. I don’t feel so overwhelmed
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To commit for 6 months?
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Yeah. I feel like I have to prove something to myself.
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@James you truly are a remarkable man, a hero at your core. All you need to do is strip away the layers, much like peeling an onion, and your inner hero will emerge. It’s similar to the Balrog of Moria, long confined beneath the earth. When the dwarves excavated the depths, they unveiled the mighty creature. Just as they revealed the Balrog, revealing your true potential is about shedding those outer layers to let your heroic nature shine through.
NOW GO AND WALK THE PATH OF THE IMMORTALS
Also listen to 7empest she is a good person.
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Who would’ve thought 
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One important thing I learned a few years ago (but didn’t understand until recently), that everytime we announce an intention but don’t keep our word, it creates a pattern of failure in us.
It’s like promising your wife your gonna fix the drain tomorrow, but 2 months later it’s still not done. It undermines her trust in you and builds the notion you will not keep your promises anyway.
The same goes for yourself. Everytime you announce you do something and don’t keep your word, you learn you can’t trust yourself.
And this is a vicious circle. This decreasing trust in yourself leads to less action, less steadiness which in turn decreases the trust in yourself.
You’re creating a pattern of failure.
To learn to trust yourself again, it’s important to start small. Say you do something small and actually do it. Keep your word. And you learn you can trust yourself a bit more. And step by step you can go bigger and bolder and you see you can trust yourself again. The same cycle, only in the other direction.
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Why is it every time I try to learn to love myself I start feeling shitty about myself?
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